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writes: I'm very young, still. But when I think about my future, I think of it being with one person only.In highschool, I was a diver, school president, had lots of dates, took AP classes. I didn't find a boy I ever really liked. Except one. We became the best of friends through his love for me. I never allowed us to become a couple, though. He was so smart. I deeply admired his brains. He was a nerdy, scrawny, awkward boy. I was the social, loud, intelligent, flirtatious, prestigious princess. Boys bored me. They were all into sports and were complete idiots. They were all so incredibly stupid without the ability to really think deeply about anything. Then there's my nerd, calculus-as-a-sophomore boy. Who I could have the most incredible conversations with. Who I told everything to. And my, was he in love with me. And I loved him too. But he wasn't who I'd take home to my family. He wasn't who I'd take out with friends. Not some macho, handsome man. He didn't love social situations.In high school, everything is one large social situation. How could it have worked? We lived on two different planets.Now we're graduated. I've been sprung with the same opportunity, same boy. I'm strung up on the same problems. When alone, I want him. I need him. He cares for the deepest parts of my soul. But. This isn't someone who will go to New Years parties with me. This isn't someone who dresses nice. I've always liked a man who dresses fashionably. Not someone who will go to lunch with my friends. Not handsome in a normal way.I just don't know how to deal with it. I CAN get the macho jerks, easily. But I don't want to. I do want him. I just keep denying it to myself. I know if we were together, we'd never end.What about our large differences? I don't want to feel constricted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): The differences can be overcome. You like to go out, he isn;t into that, so you make time to compromise, sometimes you go out sometimes you don't. As for what other people think, don't worry about that, the most important thing is that your happy, don't be with someone or not be with someone to make other's happy, that's just going to be a disaster. The differences aren't that large if you are willing to work through them and make compromises. I think you should go for it, it's better to take the chance than to regret it. I once had the chance to be with the most amazing chance, I passed on that chance and lost contact with him. Last year we reconnected, and we have been together for over a year and the happiest we have ever been. We have some big obstacles that we have overcome and it has been worth it. Go for it. Good Luck
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (26 December 2011):
 if you dont want to feel constricted, then stop restricting yourself, life is too short to be shallow or give a damn too much about other people's opinions.If you both care for each other I say GO FOR IT!!! There's little you have to lose except maybe live a life filled with regrets and longings for what could have been
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