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writes: I am dating a guy that I dated 12 years ago. We were apart for almost 10 years. He was married I was married. We knew who we wanted to be with and finally we are together. He has a real problem with trust because 12 years ago I cheated. The other day I went to the store and he accussed me of cheating because I only came back with 4 things and I was gone he says for 3 hours. I know that this is wrong but, then again I did cheat 12 years ago. He says when he confronts me about things I get mad and that's how I was before when I was lying to him. I do get mad because I'm trying to prove to him that he is the only one I want to be with but, everytime I think I'm showing something happens and it backfires. We need help. I love him so much and I know he loves me. It's just we know the hurtful things about one another and we throw it at eachother. What can or should we do? Reply to this Question
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (14 December 2006):
 This problem sounds like it requires some professional help. Twelve years is a long time to be holding his feelings, he may have gotten used to them. I really think counselling could help here because it doesn't seem likely he'll get over it by just talking to you about it. Once that's over with, I'm sure you'll have a great relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have 2 children and he has 2 children which it is affecting them also. He wants to adopt my 4 year old because her father wants nothing to do with her. I found out all the information on how we could do it. I thought maybe this would help and show him I want him to be with us forever. He found fault with that also. When we aren't fighting we get along and he is the only one I can open with on everything. We can sit and talk for hours. The children get along awesome and we have a good time with them. Our relationship would be fine if we could forget about our pasts.
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