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writes: ooooh where to start.... i have met this girl almost a year and a half ago... there was this late summer friends gathering and i meet this girl for the first time.... we took each others number and started talking on the phone for the coming week.... she was supposed to leave to college in a diffrent country... actually a diffrent continent far far away from where i currently go to college... on the day she was leaving we decided to meet for the first time after the gathering... things just clicked and we both felt a connection.... we stayed together for a couple of hours just enjoying the company... then the time came when she was supposed to go to the leave.. weeek by weeeek we started send txts and email.. then started the talking on the phone every month... then 2wks then every week and it came down to what it is now every day... we were very close as this toook almot 9 months... we were flirting with each other and things seeemed to be fine... by the end of the college year she was supposed to come back for the summer break but things didnt work out... here is where it all started... i had problems in college and she was the only one who supported me day in and day out... i really feeel for this girl from casual conversations to flirtatious talk to romantic love talk we started to feeel for each other.. i have never felt this feeling before but it feeels like i cant take her out of my head... i know for sure that my parents will not approve of her as she is from a diffrent culture and background... my parents have plans for me for the future and thats how our tradition works back home... we have been together for the past 6 months although i havent seen here... we both trust each other and this is what keeps our long distance relationship going .. i love this girl to pieces as she means alot to my heart... she loves me tooo but we cant get away with what both our parents thoughts that we dnt suit each other... i love my parents as they made me who i am right now... dunno where to cut the line should i stay with this girl if we know for sure that things wont work out..?? i dunno if im fair leaving her hanging loving me and me loving her if i cant promise her of the future.. ???
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (17 December 2006):
I say .. if you're happy with your current situation .. forget about what the future might bring. You never know what the future might be (in terms of your parents thinking). So, worry about it then. Right now, you've got happy times and I would keep at it.
If you found someone you love or like a lot ... then I wouldn't let your parents thoughts hamper on it. We shouldn't let something like cultural differences keep us from liking/loving someone. She's not a drug addict, murderer, etc ... nothing to preclude you from loving her.
Though, one thing you might want to be to and help yourself is ... see how much she is into you versus her parents being against it. I guess what I'm trying to say is ... you don't want to throw yourself whole hog into it if she's going to positively listen to what her parents say (if they're adamantly against it). I hope I didn't contradict my first paragraph in a way ... :-/
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