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writes:hes 9 years loder than me and im just holding him back. Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months nearly and wev had more than our share of problems. hes 25 and im nearly 17 and obviously thats been a problem for alot of people. but only recently ive relised im holdin him back.hes been talkin alot about marriage n things but he should be in a grown up relationship with commitment and settling down instead of being with a silly little girl.. i love him sooooo much with all of my heart and maybe thats why i shud let him go?? isnt it better to let someone go if you know your not good for them?? even if you love them??any help wud be great!! xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Missy C +, writes (24 May 2007):
 age is only a number. do you care about how old he is? and does he care about how old you are? i can understand where you are coming from i am in the same situation but my boyfriend is only 23. there are similarities and differences about us. ther are things that i hold him back from doing such as clubbin when he is with me. but he goes out of a weeknight with his mates and has a good time. but we also go out as a couppl ewith mine and his mates. If you love him and he loves you then why not work on somthing strong. He may be talking about his future but is that not what you want? ok maybe not now but in the future. I think that the longer you are a coupple unmarried the happier you will be as a married coupple as you can sort through your differences if you can see where i am coming from. Dont let go and fight for him. If he feels the same way about you then he wont want to loose you. talk to him
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (23 May 2007):
 I can't honestly say I agree about letting him go, he obviously loves you and age is only a number.
How do your parents feel about you seeing someone who is older than you, have they met him yet?
OK so you have doubts and that is normal in any relationship.
I don't know if you feel more judged but what others may think that your own feelings right now.
If you are truly having doubts then perhaps say that you need a few weeks to just sort out your own head as you feel that you not sure if you mature enough for him and for the type of relationship he is looking for but while you don't want to split with him you just need a bit of time to talk to the doubting Thomas' around you.
Just don't stress too much about all of this.
Is this your first really serious relationship?
Talk to friends and most definitely family, not everyone will either agree or disagree on this but at the end of the day if he was already involved with someone and older than you it would be a totally different situation than the one you are in.
Wish you well.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 Let him go, if he comes back you'll know. But I truly hope that he just steps back and lets you enjoy the rest of your teenage years with people your own age. Lots of time in the future for commitments even at the age of 25.
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