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*nthonynj
writes:I'm a mess rightnow! I used 2 b the numero uno,in studies,sports etc and everyone loved me But everything went crashing down!I was totally down.I shut myself away from everyone.Lonely,withdrawing 2 myself.Then all of a sudden,i met a girl @college who was like an angel!.Cheered me up,made me believe that i can make it!. I began 2 change,i started 2 believe in me.I was so happy @her presence,i felt so much better !.Everyone of ma batch used 2 greet me with her name,coz i talk 24/7 abt her! Everybody related 2 me was very happy to see me happy! But that 2 ended!Her family is very conservative and radical(roman catholics,similar 2 mine).And when her mom found the msgs that i sends to her mob,all hell let loose!Her mom beat her up and asked me 2 leave her daughter alone 4 ever!.A friend of mine told me that her dad had threatened 2 kill her if she try 2 contact me!. She was ma only reason 2 live!I lost it! Reply to this Question
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (28 October 2008):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the question Problems problems!
Ma dad gave me a sort of ultimatum that i must marry a girl before i turn 25(i'm 23 now!).He says he would 'expel' me from the family if i doesnt 'settle' myself!
Im studyin CAD now,would take ~6 months 2 complete.I'm under real pressure!
I'm jobless rightnow and would take @least 6 months 2 find one(as I've 2 complete the course that i'm in)
On top of that there s another problem,girls of ma age doesnt find me attractive enough but i get lots of 'that' from teenage girls(oh man,its almost embarrassing,especially @church.Because of this i didnt participate the youth prayer meetings)
Why is this?
Why teens instead of women find me attractive?
(I know i sound funny,but...btw,i look ~Alex Yoong,ex F1 driver!,but not that 'oriental'!)
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (21 October 2008):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWOW! Thanx for those inspiring words,really pumped me up! yoU are sayin to 'channelize' the love to somethin 'creative'! Great! Like what Dante did on 'Divine Comedy' ! Let me see what i can do with my 'Beatris' (hope the spellin is correct!)!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Hi
Na you don't need to consult a psychiatrist for this situation. She recognised you and made you feel good, so now you should recognise you and believe in yourself and know that you were loved for just been you. Are you an artist? recreate your love in art,music and dance and let your love for her be your inspiration. I wish you all the best and hope you reach for the stars and love everything about yourself as she did.
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (20 October 2008):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThings r gettin normal!
Seems like i'm copin with the loss(loss of ma heart!,oops)
Thanx guys 4 ur support!
Appreciate that!
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (18 October 2008):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u verymuch 'anonymous' ,really appreciate ur opinion!
I get wat u r sayin
But 4 somebody who didnt believed in himself..... losin someone who recognised him is really painfull!
Btw,does i need 2 consult a psychiatrist?
(I was made 2 consult one some time back by ma parents who was bit concerned abt my personality,but now he's very busy attending international seminars etc,cant contact him right now!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Ever heard of soul mates or twin souls? Ride it out and live on the love you felt and who knows if the stars won't unite you both again. Let it be and live your life and don't fight time! things happen at alloted times, if you are a believer in fate? Good luck and rock and roll but above all keep growing and achieving.
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (17 October 2008):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know the lyrics of the song "It Must've Been Love" by Roxette as i'm playin it 24hrs 2 make my mind say,ok,its over now!But i cant!!
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (17 October 2008):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx Q ! But i cant forget her rightnow!,i just cant! She was a perfect match for me! She had similar religious and political background(roman catholic,'conservative' right!),similar tastes....etc!Even our physical appearance was so strikingly similar that many asked if we are twins! I just cant cope with that lose! I tried to forget her,but my friends,when i meet them,ask first about her!So i'm reminded of her everyday by my friends It really hurts
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