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writes:Dear Cupid,I like this one guy and I think he likes me. The only thing is his friend likes me and I don't want to ruin thier friendship cause of me. I'm going to ask the guy I like out and I think he will say yes.What I'm trying to get at is do you have any advice on how to ask him out? Also do you have any advice for what to do when I go out with him and how to treat his friend who likes me? Reply to this Question
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (29 May 2008):
 This is kind of one of those situations where somebody's going to get hurt. Actually, assuming that you and the one you like start dating, it's going to be a test of the two guy's friendship on just how tight they are. Unfortunately, I don't think that you have any control over the friend's reaction.
But, if you want to do this gingerly, I would suggest that you first speak with the one guy that you like... tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way, then you might want to ask him how you two should handle the friend. If anyone knows him well, it would be his best friend, right?
Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): I will write this from the point of view of a guy that liked a girl that my best friend also liked.
I think if you ask the one guy out that you like, it is better than him asking you out because his friend won't feel like he went behind his back or something.
When asking the guy out, be honest with him. Tell him you like him and lay the cards out saying that his friend also likes you. That it could be complicated, but that you really care for him. Have him choose between you and his friend basically, or maybe he will think about it and talk to his friend about it before you get an answer.
There is always risk involved, but I think this may be the best way. And treat the friend that likes you, as a good friend, don't act weird around him, if at all possible.
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