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writes:My friend just broke up with her boyfriend, who I secretly liked. Now I would never want to hurt her by trying to take him from her! Don't get me wrong, I'm not like that! But I'm not that sure they'll get back together. Something about being "uncomfortable" since they grew up together. Though she would like to get him back. Now that he's single, he's all I can think about! He called me cute, and we talk a lot on the computer, but I don't want my friend to get mad, and think I wanted them to break up. I want him yet I don't and I don't know what to do!
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reader, Love is all you need  +, writes (4 August 2009):
 talk to her say you like him but you wouldn't go with it unless she wa ok with it and if shes not and you want to be a loyalfriend then you cant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): I'm the original poster:
But how do I know it's settled? He's making it pretty obvious he just can't anymore (she's not being obsessive) but I don't know how to know when it's "settled" between them. And how do I ask her if I can go out with him? I've told her I'm mad at him and such, when I'm thinking the exact opposite. And I'm one of her best friends I guess, and just today, we were talking about what would happen if best friends got together, and she said she'd want to play matchmaker. He is/was her best friend, but she loved him, so I'm really confused!
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reader, bethevans +, writes (4 August 2009):
 Okay, i agree with 'Charlpop' umm.. the saying is always 'chicks before dicks' i know sad but true:(.. i can already tell that you probably are more of a friend person becos uve asked for advice before doing this behind ur friends bak .. even tho u probs wudnt have done it behind her back.. wel the thing is.. if i were you i would give it some time.. maybe become better friends with him for now, and then if it doesn't work out for them you'll know him more x
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reader, sugarmomma291 +, writes (4 August 2009):
I know how u feel about ur friends ex but no matter what that's ur friend & you would always hav 2 remeber hands off limited no matter how u feel image if the shoe was on the other foot how would u feel.
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (4 August 2009):
 I know this isn't what you want to hear - but trying to be with him now isn't really the best time, especially as your friend wants him back.
Remember that your friends are more important than a guy you like [cliche - but it's true].
If they're not back together when the break up has settled, you should talk to your friend about it and see with her if she's okay with you being in a relationship with him.
Your friend is the first person to consult on this.
Hope this helps.
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