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I like my ex-best friend's ex!

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Question - (11 June 2016) 5 Answers - (Newest, 12 June 2016)
A female United States age 22-25, *ittle Heart writes:

There's this guy I like. Him and one of my best friends used to go out. He broke up with her because he said it wasn't going well for them in the last 6 months. He told me that during those last 6 months he had developed feelings for me. She cheated on him. Me and her are no longer friends. I like him. Is me and him talking a bad thing? I feel like a bad person, like I'm betraying her. I don't know what to do. Is me and him a bad thing?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 June 2016):

Honeypie agony auntI think it would be an overall bad choice. Bad choice in guy... bad choice in timing.

There are plenty of other guys out there. Picking through someone else's "trash" or "recycle" your own to find a BF. All you end up with is a guy you can't trust, with baggage you don't want to deal with.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (11 June 2016):

Tisha-1 agony auntIs it a bad thing? Well, I would apply the reverse IIHTY test. If it happened to you.... Would you be delighted and happy? Would you think it was a good thing or a bad thing?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2016):

Ten years from now, you will be amused that you even considered this a major concern.

In the meantime, have you considered taking some writing lessons? Your grammar needs some TLC...

"I like a guy. He used to go out with one of my best friends. He broke up with her because he said it wasn't going well for them in the last 6 months. He told me that during those last 6 months he had developed feelings for me. She cheated on him. She and i are no longer friends. I like him. Is it a bad thing that he and I are "talking"? ? I feel like a bad person, like I'm betraying her. I don't know what to do. "

My advice to you is to spend more time paying attention in school and less time worrying about some fickle cheating guy.

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A female reader, wrathykins United Kingdom +, writes (11 June 2016):

wrathykins agony auntI personally wouldn't do it...what happens if you and her ever become friends again? Being with her ex would probably ruin the chance of that ever happening...

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (11 June 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntWhy are you no longer friends?

How long ago did they break up?

You're not betraying her, but it's messy and relationships at your age (not being patronising, I promise) usually don't last long and often cause more drama than happiness, so you need to weigh up the pros and cons.

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