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I like him, but I think I hurt his feelings, and I don't know how to fix it!

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Question - (13 August 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 22 August 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello! I have quite a long question but, well its been going on for a while so here I go...

I met someone on holiday last year and I knew he liked me and I liked him but we never really spoke properly and when I left I was really sad...I practically thought about him constantly for a whole year wondering if he would be there and if anything would happen between us again. Amazingly he was there and we ended up at a party together just before we left. We sat together and kind of hit it off, even though it was really late and I had tonsillitis, I tried my best to talk to him and you know, not get too nervous or misinterpret anything he said (it was a very loud nightclub but he speaks excellent English!) Anyhow he asked me to dance (even though I have 2 left feet) and it was terrible because the dance floor was so packed that I got elbowed in the head twice and my feet kept getting squashed by drunken strangers; so I packed it in as a bad job. By now it was one in the morning and this guy wanted to kiss me, back on the dance floor (ALL my family was there next to me by the way) but I said no, even though I wanted too, because my dad would have gone crazy (I am practically 18 - this means nothing to him obviously)so I gave him a peck on the cheek as I left. I didn’t see him until an hour before we left on our last day, but I gave him my msn address (there were more 'pecks on the cheek'cos of the old family )and I felt so bad leaving him because I would have liked to have got to know him better (maybe even had a snog?!) Its been a few weeks and he hasn’t added me on msn, even though I talk to some of his friends on facebook, I can’t pluck up the courage to ask them to pass on my messages to him, and the worse thing is that he leaves for the army very soon (not his choice - its compulsory!) and I wont be able to see him for TWO whole years! And I just wanted to tell him I liked him too and that truthfully I probably should have just kissed him there and then, and by not doing so I’m pretty sure I hurt him. I'd feel just awful if this were true because I’ve been rejected before and it’s not nice. What can I do? Because it seems an impossible situation to me and I just want to let him know how I feel because I couldn’t before! Help me!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009):

Just tell him how you feel, he probably is just not sure if you like him or not and doesn't want to hear no from you. I'm positive that he likes you and just is kind of shy about the whole deal. Just say something like this "I'm sorry I didn't kiss you, it was something I should have done cause I truly like you, please forgive me if I hurt you." If he does like you then he'll forgive you guaranteed.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009):

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Thank you ever so much for replying as quickly as you did, and im going to take your advice :D fingers crossed x c

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A male reader, dudewithgoodhair Canada +, writes (13 August 2009):

A girl did the same thing to me once and thought I was hurt and didnt have the courage to talk to me so now were seperated and I havent seen her in a year... So probably the worst thing to do is not talk to him you have to tell him... And if you think about if he likes you and he is unsure if you like him then if you tell him he'll be jumping for joy (I know I would be) be honest with him before its too late.

Contact my account if you need more help Hope this helped =)

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