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I like him but he's married. Am I reading his signals wrong?

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Question - (3 November 2008)

12 Answers - (Newest, 21 April 2009)

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi all I'm 28yrs old, a full time mum to me gal aged 5yrs old. I kinda like a guy who works in the shop downstairs but he's married with a lil gal.

Before I knew he was married, I sent him a note asking if he wanted to meet up for a drink. The next day I went in and he came up n said he was very flattered but he was married n he was sorry n if circumstances were different.

Whenever I go in he always talks to me n I feel a v.strong connection there, like an attraction. I feel really comfortable talking to him as I'm normally shy around ppl I don't know, n I can give him eye contact which is normally hard for me. I dont know if there is something there or if I'm just reading the signals wrong?? I've noticed though that he doesnt talk to everyone who goes into the shop the way he does me, n if I just pop in to get a paper he always comes up to me first to say hello. It's driving me nuts not knowing if sumthing is there or if I'm reading the signals wrong. What should i do????

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i am now cing him, have bn for the past 3 months, he started to txt me n it went from there xxx

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A male reader, fuglyone +, writes (21 April 2009):

Definitely make a go for it. Don't hesitate. If you snooze you lose. Go get 'im, dollface!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

Seems like there are lots of proverbs regarding wishes all over the world.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 November 2008):

"If wishes were horses then beggars would ride."

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

Perhaps, Mr Anon, you work in the wrong shop?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

Aha another one with unrequited love bites the dust.Just Karma I guess Mr.Anon

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

Why doesnt this happen to me?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

This is my most favorite quote.I don't know who said it.

"If only wishes were gold coins we would all be millionaires".

Stop wishing that he likes you.Even if you post this question a hundred more times the answer would be the same.Do not mess around with a person who is married.Why do you want to be an enemy to another woman?Do not mistake his KINDNESS for anything else.There are lots of guys out there who wouldn't be bothered with the fact that you have a kid.Have faith and confidence in yourself.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-get-butterflies-when-i-see-him-but.html

I think you'll get the same answers as you did first time around. Why ask the same question twice - did you think we'd all approve of your intentions or something?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

Dear Poster

This guy is nice and friendly to you but he has no intentions of developing anything more then that; you send him a note already; he explained his situation to you in a very polite manner; now you should respect the situation and not try and read things into a innocent friendly gesture.

Let go of your infatuation/obsession with this guy and find somebody that is not married and an not involved.

You deserve somebody that is mentally and emotionally available to give you the love and attention you need and deserve. When you stop concentrating on this guy and start looking around you might find the right guy very soon.

Best wishes and keep SMILING.

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A female reader, sexseahot +, writes (3 November 2008):

You probably shouldn't be trying to read any signals whatsoever. He's married and that should be all the signals you need to know. You will find someone else and this time he probably won't be married. Don't wonder about this guy anymore, just leave him be.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

He's married. It's as simple as that. He rejected you, now you should just step away.

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