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writes:Ok, so there is this boy in my class who I really like. He likes me too, but he also like the new student in our class. She is from Cuba, and although I wouldn't consider her much prettier than me, she is wayyy more "developed" than me, or anyone else in our grade for that matter. He is always flirting with her and sayin she is "fine", "hot", "sexy", etc. He is always playing around with her and she loves it. He has touched her "inappropriately" many times and hangs out with her alot. He is my best freind tho, an he has told me that he likes me alot. I don't know if he really likes me or if he likes the new Cuban girl, but it is really annoying to see him always around her, and them two playing with each other. I guess I am a little jealous too, since I like him back. So, what should I do? he even wants me to be his gf, but I'm scared to start dating him for fear that he might still be attached to other "prettier" girls than me. But I really like him and don't want to lose him to anyone!
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reader, Lilli b  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 I'm not sure that dating this boy will help you. At the moment you are good friends, why not leave it like this? If you remain friends rather than get into the dating thing with this boy you will continue a relationship that can build over a long time whereas if you date, chances are he or you will start to like others at some point and this might make it awkward to stay friends. Friendship lasts longer.
More importantly you need to start to see yourself in a better light. Your feelings of jealousy are not rooted in this boy's behaviour (although I probably wouldn't want to date a boy who is inappropriately touching another girl). Your feelings of jealousy and fears that he will find 'prettier' girls are rooted in your own insecurities. Spend this time building your friendship with this boy and why not try making friends with the Cuban girl but at the same time start telling yourself that you are a fantastic wonderful girl who is worth the very best. Even if you don't believe it at the beginning you, you can pretend until you do start to believe it - there is nothing more attractive to both potential friends and potential boyfriends than a girl who is confident and happy with you she is and doesn't feel insecure and jealous - more importantly if you focus on how great you are you can stop worrying about what other people are doing or what they think about you.
Start to love yourself, stop worrying about others and enjoy the knowledge that over the years there will be many people attracted to you and whether this boy is one of them or not is fine because you know that you will only concern yourself with those who are worthy of your attention
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reader, drastic knowledge  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 talk to him thats the best thing but to tell you at that age he is he probly wont be with you long so i would wait and be friends see where it goes and she might as well be a faze also as she gots what he likes up top and every where
boys your age are not really much differnt the guys in there 20's so you just got to really either take a chance and see or walk away all together
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