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*ellykaw
writes:Hi just need some advice pls. I'm a 33 single mum,and there is this really hot dad at the school, iv never spoken to him face to face as I always assumed his married or got a partner plus I'm shy lol anyway im on a dating site and hadn't been on there a while and decided to go on there last night,I checked who had looked at me and to my surprise "hot dad" had! I couldn't pass the opportunity so I messaged him saying 'Hi fancy seeing you on here' anyway we started having a chat, his single but I think his out of my league!I can't help thinking maybe his just talking to me out of politeness and I didn't mention he lives just round the corner to me! I walk past his place every day :0 thing is I do like him, and I'd rather no ASAP if his interested in me in that way as I don't think I could take the rejection, I always seem to like someone and they don't like me, or they like me and I don't like them, typical! Iv been single 3 years now and I'd like to finally meet someone but no hope as yet. Anyway I feel like saying something like "don't feel u have to talk to me as I'm ur neighbour, this is a dating site after all" or is that stupid lol see im really bad at this. His just so hot and seems so nice, what should I do? Any advice would be helpful, thank you in advance
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reader, kellykaw +, writes (14 November 2014):
kellykaw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for ur advice I appreciate it. He hasn't messaged me all week and I haven't bothered either and I won't. I get the message lol :/ still I might be lucky one day that someone I like MIGHT like me, I can only hope
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reader, missy_25  +, writes (12 November 2014):
I think it's good to be cautious but if you REALLY want to get to know him you can start by bringing him a dish during xmas or whatever. Honestly though, more often than not, it's girls who makes the first moves that end up getting heartbroken coz you never REALLY know if the guy liked you in the first place. It's much more gratifying if the guy is making extra strides to get to know you better. And so much more special if you you also liked him. I think you should keep working on being your wonderful self and someone will appreciate you and want to be with you that way. I would start meeting people by going to different activities that you're interested in, who knows one of them may be someone that you'd like to get to know better.Let this hot dad make the first move or just make sure you show him that you're interested in him when he does. Like talk to him about normal stuff etc. Things will happen if it is meant to be, don't rush it. That's the problem with us women, we want the answers now but guys need more time to sort through their feelings and if they're worth waiting for, we should just wait for them to make a move on us. If you give them encouragement, that will help boost their confidence but let the man be the man in this case.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 November 2014):
 Just relax and take things slowly. He may be getting over a horrendous break up with his kid's mother. Maybe he's only been single for a very short time and isn't really ready for a new relationship. Just see what develops, he may come around but you shouldn't put your life on hold waiting for it to happen.
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reader, kellykaw +, writes (10 November 2014):
kellykaw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAgain another great answer thank you. But sadly I don't think his interested anyway, his online and hasn't even said hi, and i'm not gonna make the first move again! Always the way isn't it, I like someone and they don't like me :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2014): "don't feel u have to talk to me as I'm ur neighbour, this is a dating site after all"
Do not say this.This kind of self deprecation is not sexy.
Focus on your positives. You have a lot going for you and you have to believe in the love that you have to offer. No other woman can be you so be confident. He looked at you because he liked you!
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reader, kellykaw +, writes (10 November 2014):
kellykaw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha omg u are so right, thank you that really has helped!he's just another man :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 November 2014):
 Just be cool
guess what he's not magic or special
he puts his pants on the same as any ex you have had.
he needs to eat
he needs to sleep
he needs to work and bathe and go potty
he probably dances and sings in his underwear in front of a mirror and does it very badly.
just be yourself.
smile if you see him
Just because YOU think he's so hot does not mean everyone does and does not mean he does.
get him off the pedestal you have him on and see how it goes.
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