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anonymous
writes:I'm Sooooo stressed, and it's down to just ONE person! A Teacher... I've had an obsessive crush on him for nearly a year, and it's actually affecting my school work - I'm not a nerd or anything, but if i wanna get my dream job i'm gonna have to improve my grades! I'm in the last year, so its quite important to me really. I'm seeing a councellor next week, just to get the situation off my chest! I can't ever have this man, and it's making me depressed! I can barely even sleep at night, i just end up crying over him onto my pillow! I admit i'm completely pathetic and childish but i duno wot to do! I feel as though my life is controlled, and that i can never be happy without him!Anyway if anyone cud help me out wiv a little advice i would really appreciate it - How can i stop thinking of him and get over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): Trust me, you're not at all pathetic or childish; so many girls have felt, or still feel, the exact same thing as you. You have seen something you like in your teacher, so you're conviced that you have strong feelings for him, but it's actually all in your head. Most people with the same thing as you usually feel as if they don't like their teacher as much when they are with them, but as soon as they're gone, they can't stop thinking about them. It's completely normal, and it's great that you're getting counselling - not that you're crazy or anything - but it means you can get it all of your chest. A counsellor won't judge you. My advice is to go out and keep occupied as much as you can because, although you may not think so, it will take your mind off him and allow you to feel much better. Try to spend time with boys your own age; the best thing about teacher crushes is that they're guaranteed to go away eventually, even if this takes a month or even five years! Enjoy school and your friends and, before you know it, you'll forget all about him and wonder what was going on! I wish you the best of luck, with your grades and your teacher x
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reader, prfan4life  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 hey,
listen mate, im around u're age and i have this massive crush on my english teacher, and he's 32. but that doesnt count for me cause he is so damn awesome, and i love the way he teaches, and the way he jokes around with us, and whenever something special happens between him and i during the day, i go home and write about it in my diary! i have waited 3 years to have him as my teacher so i am more than joyed to be his student!!
this massive crush you have, you definetly shouldn't let that get in the way of your grades!!! you shoudln't be so distracted that all you can do is think about him, enjoy every moment you have with him, but then also continue professionally with the rest of your studies! I love my teacher to death, i can't stop praising him, but our moments together i keep them down in my heart in a special place and i think you should do so as well, and know that if you get along with him that he will always care about you- he is your teacher after all. but do study that should be your main priority right now!!
it's tough when you have a teacher you really like beyond just the teaching aspect, but you can't get off base..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): Your not pathetic or childish!! alot of girls feel your way, its good your seeing a councillor as they will help !! Try hanging out and flirting with lads your own age and try and forget him by hanging out with your friends and stuff that can take your mind of him and then hopefully your grades will go up to !
good luck xx
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reader, love-him +, writes (25 November 2007):
 Hey hon, your no way a nerd! your councellor will help you to get over him, this will pass, but you need to think of things to get your mind off him :) I hope i helped, Feel free to mail me aout anything x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): remember that it's LUST. you want him b/c you are probably physically attracted to him or either some of his words have misleaded you to believe that he is the one. anyways, if it helps look at it this way: "lives goes on, so move on"
yeah... you're just going to suffer for a bit or wait it out until these feelings go away; rebounding can help, but in the end it backfires too at times.
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