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anonymous
writes:there this guy that i work with 2 days a week, he's married. we exchanged numbers due to work contact. he starting texting me and we were having a banter and joke for a few days. i saw him at work 3 days later and we were really flirty. he has sent me loads of texts during work hours, and stops texting as soon as he finishes work. i was with him at work yesterday, i went out for my lunch and he text me saying he was lonely eating his lunch, so i came back and sat with him, but all we did was just chatted and stuff. he has text me every day for 2 weeks, and i've replied. nothing between us has happened, we havent even touched eachother. he knows i like him but i know that hes married and i dont want to get involved that way and ruin his marriage, but i do like him and he's great to be around we get on so well and have so much in common. i'm very confused i don't know what to make of it?? advice please??
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Good girl! Thanks for listening to us and letting us know your decision. You can always be proud of yourself for taking the higher road. I'm impressed!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your advice.. i'm not gonna go there.. i was just very confused at the mixed signals... thanks guys!!!
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reader, SeriouslyStephanie +, writes (25 March 2010):
 no no NO NO NO NO Do not go there, you could ruin his marriage and whole life. Trust me. My brother was having an affair with a saturday girl at his shop for 8 months and he lost his wife and child over it. DO NOT RUIN HIS LIFE. He lusts after you. he LOVES his wife.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Start talking about his wife and family more, when the suggestive talk starts change the subject and talk about more mundane things, like the weather
he is only in it for the thrill of the chase, but you will only be his prey if you let it happen
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (25 March 2010):
You say you don't want to "get involved that way and ruin his marriage." Well then don't! It's as simple as that. I am sure all this attention is flattering but this guy most assuredly wants to get in your pants. And if that happens you'll get way more attention than you ever bargained for - from his current wife when she finds out. Also this sort of carrying on at work will surly sully your reputation. Do you want that? Walk to the nearest exit and stop fooling around with married men. Put your self in his wife's shoes. How would you like it? You wouldn't.
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reader, hunnie poo  +, writes (25 March 2010):
he's a married man and will always love him wife u r just going to be other woman who he can get other things form but that's how far it will be he;s married and love him wife u should not show ur feeling to him or try to hae a relationship with him he's going to leavn u in the end...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): You made a friend at work and he is married. If you want to hang out with him, engage him in conversation about his family, wife kids etc. It's a crush. It happens to all of us. Make new friends at work, preferably ones that are unattached! But if at all possible try not to have a relationship at work. They can be messy if one or both parties can't handle it. Good luck!!
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reader, dyeruz +, writes (25 March 2010):
ummm make of it he's married and he has a wife and he's off limits..as nice as he is to you, you'd still be cheating.
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