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26-29,
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writes:I'm completely and utterly in love with my old science teacher. I'm 15 and a sophomore and he's 28. He teaches freshmen science so I no longer have him as a teacher. I know for a fact I am in love with him. He is the only person who can make me truly happy and I think about him constantly. I began developing feelings for him in February and I thought that over the summer I would get over him since I wouldn't see him for 2 months. During the summer, I was distracted from the thought of him and I kinda forgot about him. I really thought I was over him. I was wrong. The second I saw him at the beginning of my sophomore year, all of my feelings for him came fluttering back. Last school year I used to see him every single day and talk to him all the time. I loved talking to him.He really made me feel special and gave me a ton of attention that he didn't give to other students. I think that may be one of the factors that made me fall in love with him. He used to always call me his favorite student and I would always call him my favorite teacher. We definitely shared a special bond and I loved that. It made me happy. Now , I don't see him often and the only talking I allow us to do is saying "hey" in the hallway. I really wish I could get over him because even though I'm in love with him and he makes me happy, the fact that he's physically around me all the time yet so far away drives me crazy. I can't stand to see his new freshman students going into his classroom and writing things about him on Facebook.I get insanely jealous of any girl who has him because they get to sit in a room with him for 45 minutes everyday and I would give anything to have what they have. It absolutely kills me inside because I feel like he's replaced me and doesn't care about me anymore. Everyday I feel sad and upset because all I want to do is be with him, but I can't. It's just all so complicated. I have a few opportunities throughout the day where I can go to his class and visit with him but I choose not to because I think if I keep myself away, it will help me move on with my life and get over him. Not being around him makes me miserable though. I miss him so much. My best friend says I should go talk to him more instead of avoiding him. I don't want to be unhappy any more. What should I do?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 December 2011):
 It sounds more like a crush then actual LOVE.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 December 2011):
 Think about it this way:
A real, honest love for a person would do anything for them. This means, if your increased attention for him would destroy his career and/or his family if he's married,not to mention putting him in jail, then if you were really honestly "in love" with him, you'd stay as far away from him as possible in order to protect him.
Your best friend isn't considering what's best for you. She is reacting to what would make you happy in the short run, because I'm sure that you talk about your teacher constantly.
You have something very good going for you now. When you fill your life with activities (i.e. your summertime), your feelings and obsession and infatuation for him is able to dim.
Consider this your big test of adolescence. Remember, you show your love for him best by protecting him, which means that you keep your relationship with him as teacher and student. I promise you that your feelings will ease some, especially after you graduate. I know you don't want them to ease, because they're a beautiful agony to you.
Also, remember, your fantasies and daydreams are perfectly safe for you, and may be a way to release some steam for you. Just keep in mind -- real, good, true, honest love would never put him in danger, which he would be in big time if your relationship were inappropriate, or even if the mere appearance and innuendo of a relationship with you would put him in, so don't talk about your feelings for him to many people. You would be crushed if his life was devastated by all this, wouldn't you?
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