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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 and half years now. Last week when she was away I went to the cinema with a friend of mine who is female as it was her birthday. After the film while waiting for her mum is was a bit cold so we hugged to keep warm and then we kissed. It was not meant to happen and I dont know what to do. Some help please Reply to this Question
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Are you sure this was a one time thing? Have you ever had feelings for this friend before? You have two options; 1) You can keep this a secret between you and your friend. This requires that your friend not tell anyone either, not even one of her best friends. Are you even sure she hasn't told anyone? 2) You can own up and tell your girl what happened.
If you choose option 1, e prepared to look like a total jerk if the secret gets out and your girl finds out you lied to her. If you pick option 2, you have the chance to be sorry, allow her to be angry/ upset, and show her that you truly care for her by being honest.
It may hurt, and she may leave you, but in the end, honesty is always the best policy.
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reader, minnie_me  +, writes (24 February 2009):
well if it wasnt ment to happen then there is no need to tell your girlfriend...but if this girl you kissed wants you to get into a relationship with her then your going to have to tell your girlfriend
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reader, ISOHaven +, writes (24 February 2009):
Well, you obviously know what you did was wrong as you are labeling it cheating. You can cheat mind, body and soul.
We all make mistakes. But you need to be honest with yourself for the sake of yourself and your girlfriend. Was it only a kiss? If you have any feelings for this person then that means you are capable of generating these feelings with people other then your long term girlfriend. If that's the case, then you need to come clean with your girl and figure things out. If marriage is what you are after then you need to get your head and heart into one gal and keep it there.
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