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writes:on the w/e for the first time in about a year i went out with mates n got really drunk n well a girl had been flirting with me b4 i got drunk but told her i had a gf so i thought she wouldn't try anything anyway after a lot of drinks a lot of us were watching a movie wen she kissed me n i don't know exactly what was going through my head as my memory was a lil impaired from the alcohol but i remember all i was thinking was of my girl friend(of 2 years) but i didn't stop the kiss straight away then i stopped n walked away i really was just in shock of what happened n now i really don't know what to do.I know i have to tell her but she is a fairly unstable person wen it comes to emotions i don't want to hurt her but at the same time i know i have to take responsibility for my actions i just don't want her to hurt herself physically as well i have never ever regretted something so much in my entire life n i am never going to drink again not even a sip 1 small mistake has ruined everything 4 me now so should i tell her n wreck our relationship n really hurt her or should i just pretend nothing happened? i cant believe this has happened i don't expect her to stay with me she should leave me i just really don't want to hurt her n wish this never happened..what should i do!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): From what you say this girl kissed you and you walked away - well done you. You obviously love your gf or like most guys you would have taken her to bed - she obviously fancied you a lot to kiss you.Don't tell your girlfriend and don't be so hard on yourself. You are young and this is part of growing up.If your girlfriend finds out just tell her the truth - the girl kissed you and you walked away. I think she would be proud of you for walking away and getting upset - not one guy I know would have doen what you did!Take care!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Just let it go. Dont beat yourself up anymore and certainly dont tell your gf. If she is unstable this will send her over the edge. Best left unsaid. why does she need to know. Even if someone says something, i would deny all and say nothing else. but dont get into that sort of situation again.
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reader, superdopah  +, writes (5 November 2007):
ok, you sound as though you regret it and love your girl friend, it was only a drunken kiss DONT tell her what is the point in hurting her if you do regret it and want to stay with her! it will just cause trust issues and do you really want her paranoid everytime you go out with your mates! avoid the girl the kiss happened with and dont break her trust again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): My sister found out her b/f kissed someone else at a party, she was most hurt that her b/f didn't tell her himself that he done it. These things have a way of coming out. Tell her gently and say you stopped the kiss after you realised what happened, she should forgive you and I tell you she trust you alot more if she found out from you then someone at that party.
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reader, GreenEyed +, writes (5 November 2007):
Hey mate, it sounds that you really care for your girl. I think you should tell her what happened. Although she might not appreciate it at the time, it will sound better coming out of your mouth rather than someone elses. She might breakup with you, or she might not - you would know her better. Atleast you can say you were man enough to face the truth. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Oh, bunkums! Why should you tell your gal anything about a night out with the mates? You did nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Oh, bunkums! Why should you tell your gal anything about a night out with the mates? You did nothing.
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