A
female
age
36-40,
*illybelle
writes:i have recently spilt from my husband of 4 years after i kept a secret from him and he found out.. he said that i should be able to tell him anything and that he now doesnt believe a word i say and has lost all feelings for me... i love my husband with all my heart and really want to prove to him that anything like that will never happen agian and we should try againplease help me Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 August 2008):
Yeah, I would be pissed off it you made me homeless too.
That is a pretty major thing.
I think all you can do is send him a letter or an email or a text and tell him how sorry you are and explain exactly what you did and why you did it. Perhaps you can make him understand.
Ask him if there is ever any chance of him forgiving you if you promise to put him in charge of everything financial.
This is a Major thing you did though so I wouldn't get your hopes up. What were you thinking????
Good Luck!! xx
A
female
reader, lillybelle +, writes (19 August 2008):
lillybelle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy husband alway used to put me in charge of monthly bills, but i got carried away and didnt pay our rent which in turn made us homless.. i didnt only informed my husband of this a day before we had to move out. i have now lost my husbands total trust due to this i need help what do i do now i love him so much ??
...............................
A
female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 August 2008):
If it was a major thing that is going to affect him and your life together then yes he has a right to be angry.
If it was something small then he was just looking for an excuse to blow up and get out.
Give him some time to cool down and then arrange to meet up to talk. That's all you can do really.
Good Luck!! xx
...............................
A
male
reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 August 2008):
 It depends on the secret.
If the secret was something that he needed to know, something that would have affected him and your marriage directly, then yes, you violated his trust in you.
If the secret was something about your life that has nothing to do with him, and it is not something related to building your relationship with him, then NO, you do not HAVE to tell him. In fact, given the way he is reacting right now, all he is doing is proving that he may not be man enough to handle your truth.
-Frank B Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
...............................
A
female
reader, starfairy +, writes (17 August 2008):
 You just need to build his trust back up, give it time.
...............................
|
