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writes:well hello there. :)i'm really looking for advice. i was dating this guy for six months, and everything was going great. not only was he my boyfriend, he was my best friend. i could tell him anything, we never fought, hung out all the time, and were always happy when we were with each other. but he thought things were getting "too serious", and broke up with me in february. he dumped me in the absolute nicest way possible, but i was still devastated.but the problem is, five months later, i'm still completely hung up on him. even though i have no right to (and it almost seems stalkery), i look at his facebook multiple times a day, and i work myself up if i see girls writing on his wall. i dont know why i've gotten like this. i never used to get jealous or obsessive when we were dating.i just don't know how to move on. i've had a few guys tell me they like me, and two have actually asked me out since. but i keep holding onto something that hasn't been there in months, just waiting and hoping he realizes that he made a mistake and try to give us another try.any ideas of how i can get this boy out of my head? or even better tell me ways to move on? i know i'm only 17, and i'm probably coming off as a pathetic creep on here, but i really thought he was the one. i'm just sick of being upset all the time. any help is appreciated. thank you. :)
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reader, ilanah tromans  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 Well... I think you should write down all your feelings so you feel like your getting them all out, maybe tell him if there is a chance if yous will get back so you know for sure, he's probably feeling good that you still like him, but don't worry this has happened to me it is really hard but trust me you'll find someone else that you deserve soon you just have to keep looking :-)!
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reader, MugenTj +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Action plus Reason get you over things faster.
He was your best friend and you guys dated. That might have been your side only, because I can't imagine why he would think it was too fast and break it off unless he wasn't that into you.
Sometimes a person treats you well only to practice his interpersonal and dating skills (maybe unconsciously).
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reader, infinitedays423 +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Even though you are not completely over him. The next guy who asks you our or says he likes you that u find attractive or anything like that. Go out with him. Until that happens again stay off facebook. No more facebook stalking its worse for you to do that. It will not help you. If you have any pictures of him with you hide them or burn them so you keep him off your mind. Tell yourself you are over him. Even though you may not completely, tell yourself you are. Eventually you will be. An ex boyfriend of mine once told me that it thats twice as long to get over the person who broke up with you aas it took to date her. I don't know if that is accurate, but I suggest to tell yourself you don't like him as more than a friend or at all. Good Luck! :)
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