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writes:I been wanting to spice my relationship up with my boyfriend. I bought a couple of lingerie outfits but everytime I say I want to get dressed up for you he just says WHY ... I ask what man wouldn't want that he just says he dosent so how do I get him to say yes or what do I do? Another question that in connected with this question I love to dress up in sexy outfits an send pictures to him while he is at work but he dosent like that either what do I do? He says I try to hard but really I just want to spice it up
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): I'll second the advice to just do it. I would love it if my girlfriend dressed in a sexy outfit and surprised me with it. Just the thought of coming home after a long day of work to find my girl done up and ready... Hot Damn!!!
Don't ask him, because it may seem like more work. Why get all dressed up to just take it right back off? Also, let him know how sexy it makes you feel. If he is the supportive type, he ought to let you try it.
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reader, Kenneth +, writes (22 April 2010):
Relax!! Relax!!! you are trying too hard. This will put a guy off. Have you checked your manners & attitude lately around him? May be you need to.....
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Some people just arn't in to that thing, ... others think that they arn't until they encounter it first hand.
My besty falls in the first catagory. Neither her or her hubby like things like that, have been together 20 years, and are one of the happiest couples I've ever known. Just suits em both.
As for the second catagory - My guy tried telling me he did not like lingerie when we first got together and would not even bother checking out my bra and knickers (much to my dissapointment when Agent Provocatuer might as well have been K-Mart) let alone want to see anything full on, ... but when I first walked out in the whole deal anyway his eyes just about bugged out of his head.
He said he had seen pic's of women dressed like that and it did nothing for him, but that no one had ever done that in person and he realized he did like it after all. A Lot! He has been making requests ever since.
So if your guy is anything like mine, forget sending him the pic's, just put on the live show and then see if he does not change his mind.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 April 2010):
 I had a boyfriend who sounded very similar to what you've described. Guess what? I found out years later that he came out as GAY. :)
Dressing sexy to a red blooded guy? That's their dream! The only thing to make it better is if you just made him a delicious meal and are bringing beer! Most guys would get down on their knees and thank a higher power for a girl like you, unless, of course, he's gay. :P
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 April 2010):
 Is this why you're trying to spice things up? Because he wants a threesome?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-trying-to-talk-me-into-a-threesome.html
Sounds like you two need to do some honest communicating. Perhaps a relationship counselor would give you the assistance you seem to require; we can't really help unless he perceives that there is a problem.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): He doesn't sound like your perfect partner in the sexual term at all and that's okay, me and my boyfriend arent either.
I love raunchy underwear, dressing up and trying different things.. such as using dildo's, vibrators, doing it out doors, etc. But he just isn't into any of it at all so we're abit lost in that term.
There's nothing you can do about it really if he doesn't like it.
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