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writes:I am really lost, my boyfriend and I split up about a month ago after an 11 month relationship, as he cheated on me with his ex. I am distraught, but to make things worse I used to go see him every weekend, and my social life became evolved round him and his friends. I now have lost those friends, and have seemingly no soial life. I don't know what to do, it is impossible to get over him even though I know he is a complete and uttr waste of space. I am in such a state, my life at college is awful, as I have few friends, and I just want to feel part of a strong friendship group again, but tagging along with my old friends doesnt work now we have split up, as they have known him longer and so chose his side. Please help!!!
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reader, Skeez +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Aww wow hun. Thats exactly what I went through.
I was with my boyfriend for 20 months, and my social life was evolved around him and I never saw any of the few friends I had. We only recently split up too and I thought 'Oh god Im going to be alone, and have no friends'. What I did, was ask the people I knew there mobile numbers and just planned a day out with them. I am a really shy person and in other circumstances I would never ask a friend out, because Im too shy, but I realised the only way to get over him is to be surrounded by other people. Just pick up your phone and get in contact with the few friends you have. Also tell them how you are feeling and ask if they can introduce you to there friends aswell. You will be alright lovey. I broke up with my ex only 1 week ago, and so far I have been out with a different friend every day since, because I could be bothered to pick up the phone. Just remember you need to get over this and the only way to do so is keep yourself occupied.
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reader, Miss C +, writes (19 March 2008):
 If these so called friends have decided to choose sides just because of something that happened between the two of you then they obviously weren't real friends to begin with. It must feel like the most horrible thing in the world to lose your boyfriend and your friends but trust me there are so many nice people out there. What happened to the friends you had before you started dating this guy? Maybe you should try and make ammends with them? A really good person to talk to you know about what your going through is your mum. I know that sounds corny but there were so many days when I just felt so alone I would hide away in my bedroom and cry and I felt like I had no one to talk to. Just at my very worst I opened up to my mum about my heart break abd loneliness and she cheered me up so much. You'd be surprised at how much they understand actually! You'll always have your family, even if you can't rely on your friends. Still though, you should try going out doing things you enjoy to meet new people and try new things. It's a great way of keeping your mind off losing your boyfriend and a great way to meet new people. Don't be alone in this and just remember, any friends who would ditch you and take the side of a cheating scum bag are obviously not worth your time! I hope this has helped somewhat. Just remember, email me any time if you want to talk. Chin up gorgeous! Miss C xx
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