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*abiigurl
writes:I need to get over my ex. I'm not too sure how to do it. It has been a year. He says he loves me but he jus can't be with me because I had a baby by someone else(I did not cheat) however I think if you truelly love somebody you can work threw something like this. It is so hard for me to move on everything reminds me of him an my heart hurts. He will not talk to me. I just want him to say he does not want me anymore. Leaving it with him telling me he loves me an wants to be with me but he can't handle me having a baby that's not his just confuses me. Because love has no limits. I understand its hard and upsetting and he needs time.I'm scared that I will one day move on an then he will come back around. I guess my question is what can I do so I'm not hurting so bad?
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 January 2011):
 you have been apart for a year. He does not want a relationship. And he cannot handle that you had a baby by someone else, even though you did not cheat on him. And he does not want to talk to you.
Yes you do need to get over him.
And sadly for you, it is well and truly over for him. He has moved on. And he possibly feel he owes you nothing. Certainly how much clearer can he be if he has not spoken to you for a year?
He does not have a responsibility to help you over this hiatus.
That is your responsibility.
I realise it is so very hard, but every minute you spend going over and over in your mind about this - the longer you are delaying moving on to new experiences.
There are good experiences ahead for you, but not until you release thoughts of the former guy from your thoughts.
Put this misery out of your mind.
If you want to get it out of your system write down all you feel like saying. Do not hold back. When you have finished, read the letter out loud to YOU. Kiss the letter. Say goodbye. And burn that letter. Symbolically ending the former relationship.
Then go out, get your hair done. And from now on keep your eyes open for your new guy.
You deserve happiness.
If the other guy had wanted to come back he would have done so by now. But he is not the only guy who can make you happy. Good luck.
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