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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I keep having dreams that my ex and I are back together and it's driving me mad! We broke up in February and were together eight months so you'd think I'd be done with missing him and thinking about him at all by now, but there are days when I feel miserable about what happened. Other days I'm fine and really glad he's not in my life anymore, as he was quite abusive while we were together yet at the same time acted very loving. I don't want to be with him and haven't spoken to him at all since we broke up, even though he's tried to contact me three times since. My sense of closure disappeared when I found out he was seeing other girls towards the end of our supposedly exclusive relationship (from mutual a friend, mind you) and then not even a month later, was told he was 'staying over' his new girlfriend's house nearly every night. Through our entire relationship he demanded sex in spite of telling him I wasn't ready, which I never gave in to and he denied it was one of the reasons (if not the main and only reason on his end) why we broke up. To find out he was sleeping with this new girlthat was known by everyone in our group of friends to be a slut not even a month later confirmed my suspicions and made me feel like absolute rubbish, as if that really was the only reason he wanted to be with me all along. As far as I know, he has no idea I know this and likely thinks he got away with being such a prick. I don't know how to move on, I've tried dating new people making new friends and going out most nights having a great time but that only works for a short while. I keep busy so I don't have time to dwell, let alone think about him. I'll be fine for weeks and feel like I'm over it all and suddenly it hits me and I start to miss the good moments we had, or I'll have a dream about him and I wake up terribly depressed. I have no intention of ever speaking to him again and doubt I'd ever find closure from contacting him anyway. I just need a way to move on, I should be over it all by now yet I'm not. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Hello there,
These things take time. It happened to me once when ME AND MY EX BROKE UP, IT WAS SOO DEPRESSING I COULDNT STAND IT ! .I went through severe depression although he was also a prick.. After that I met a new guy and we got married.. and I thank god everyday that i didnt continue dating that prick, and i regret the times i cried and dwelled on it.. so just let it go, ur ex has cheated on you, which is an unforgivable crime in dating, if he loved you he would never think of cheating on you.. just let it go .. enjoooy.. dont waste ur precious time
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female
reader, anita1  +, writes (13 October 2010):
i feel for you we have all been there, and it will take time to heal, you must do thing that make you happy and stop thinking about the past, because it wont change things , and your better of without him, because he isnt crying over you is he my advice to you is go and treat yourself get your hair done buy yourself sometings nice and start loving you,hold your head up girl
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