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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. i love him soo much. i do anything he wants, he hasnt got a job or a license so i drive him everywhere and buy stuff for him. he doesnt invite me out, blames me on our problems and makes me chose everything we do. sometimes i feel like he doesnt appreciate me and i dont know how to get it thru to him. ive talked and it just comes back on me. he does treat me right when im with him and shows his love and affection but never calls or messages me unless i do it first. is he really worth my effort? does he love me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 April 2008):
 'Casting pearls before swines!'
Those swines will not know and appreciate the value of those pearls.
Don't waste those pearls.
Give it to someone who can really appreciate them.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 Honestly, read back what you wrote, if that was your best friend or sister who had written that what would you tell her to do? Exactly. He's taking the piss and I think you are encouraging it by doing everything for him. At the moment he has no motivation to get a job or a license because he doesnt need one. He has you to do everything for him. So if you stop and tell him he needs to stand on his own two feet and be independent because you are not his mother, then he might be forced to change. If not, I think you should just forget him and move on because you will be happier with someone who doesnt treat you like his own personal slave.
Take care
Brooke
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 not worth your time find a man who compliments you and grows with you not a man that brings you down
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reader, Shivvii +, writes (25 April 2008):
ask yourself does he do any thing for you? If he doesn't tell him. Or maybe just start saying no. he goes mad at you for saying what you say he's not for you!
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (25 April 2008):
 That aint love their, thats him usin you plain and simple..
Sit him down, have a long talk about all of this and if he still carries on, leave him.
You can only take and do so much before if effects you.
How long before your the one needin to ask for money from someone because you dont have any with him takin it?
My advice is to sit him down, talk about all this and say if he doesnt change his way, your leavin. You will know if he really does love you in the end.
Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): I take it he is under 18? Your over 18?
Have you talked to him about it?
Remember we cannot read minds. Your both very young, and for men, relationships are not high priority. Were still having fun with our new found freedoms from our parents.
With him having no car or job, this isn't good, no ambition.
You need to talk to him, if he isn't going to change, then you have to look at your life and decide what it is you want and then go that direction. Either he is with you, or he is in the distance. As a couple, you should be more upfront on giving idea and doing things you want to.
It seems true that opposites attract. To find someone like yourself would make life to easy.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (25 April 2008):
 I think you know the answer.
If you read what you have written and think about it for a moment, doesn't it suddenly become clear?
I'm happy to spell it out if you want, but I think it will be so much better if it comes to you from inside yourself.
Susan
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