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writes:HiI was seeing this guy for over 2 a months.He was saying how I was the girl for him and how much he realy liked me.There was something I kept from him and that was that I had a son. I was quiet lonely before I met him and I wanted the feeling of been in a relationship.been held etc.He started coming on stronger and I felt I should tell him especialy since I didnt think I could tell him I loved him until he new about my son.The worse thing happened.Although he acted like it was okay at first.It wasnt.Later on he acted like a prick to get out of it.I feel very down and I even vomitted.I find it hard to understand how a person who says cares soo much for me could have no compassion? Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 There was a reason you didn't tell him. What was it? Maybe you can answer your own question.
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reader, Sassister  +, writes (28 October 2007):
When you have children you must be honest and tell men at the very beginning of the relationship. It's not fair to them to keep this secret. It also does not reflect well upon you because it can make you seem desparate. I know very well that if you are honest, you are going to be dismissed by some men. They have the right to make up their minds whether or not they can handle kids. It will hurt, but you don't want to be with someone who doesan't willing and openingly accept that you and your son are a package deal. I'm sorry you are hurting. I learned this lesson the hard way too.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 hi.i do not understand why he reacted in this way, if he loved you, then he should have loved your son as much, some men like to only go out with single woman, and do not like the though of bringing up another man child, but maybe you are also at fault for not saying you had a son.Next time you start a relationship you should mention you have a son and then they will stay with you, or have the choice not too.He cannot have loved you as much as he made out, it is not your fault that he behaved this way to wards you, you should be thinking on the lines that you have had a very lucky escape from this jerk,I hope things go well for you in the future, and you meet some one who will love you both very much. Good luck.
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