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writes: I'm thinking of kissing my new boyfriend today! Woohoo! I'm just scared he'll be an awful kisser or something...Eep! I'm also afraid he'll want to take it a little farther than touching my breasts...okay, so not afraid, because I've been around the block on several occasions regarding that. I'm just nervouse because A I haven't been really uh...groped (? lol) in about six months, and this is my first new boyfriend in over two and a half years! We just started dating like monday, and I'm really into him, but I think we should hold off on anything other than kissing or feeling up for a while. I really can't say weather I trust him, since my last relationship ended and I've since had trust issues. He's definately a big sweetheart (he's like huge, lol), and has already shown me all the sensitive sides of him I never thought he'd show...He's really impressed me!So...how do I deal with the physical aspects of a new relationship? How slow or fast should I go?PS: Please don't tell me to keep it in my pants because I'm not married or because I don't know what I should do so therefore should be doing nothing...I'm NOT a virgin, and I don't plan on abstaining these days. I'm very experienced, but as said, I have trust issues, so I need a mite bit of advice. I feel I need to step out of my comfort zone and breathe deeper than I have over the last few months, and feel that he can help me do so. So, like I said, my question is how do I deel with the phsyical part? Slow or fast, a little or a lot?Thanks, aunties and uncles!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust an update, we've made it to like...third base. Maybe even short-stop. :D Sex is in the distantly near (lol) future, probably. He understands it not feeling right for me and says he'll wait as long as I would like to take it to the next level.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 I absolutely hate it when I get misread. I was not being sarcastic I was trying to imply that you had just started dating and all your issues seemed just a tad premature for a 3 day relationship. I can assure you that I take my responsibilities as an aunt on this site with the utmost sincerity and care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the help! :) I think I've got it figured out, now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, well we kissed the day after it was posted. We were laying on a bed watching a movie and he loves to tickle me since it's so easy, so that's how it happened. He's an uh...interesting (???) kisser, to say the least. No matter, that can be tamed. I'm a really physical person anyway, so kissing, touching, letting him touch my breasts is no big deal. Why am I so uptight about actual sex? I plan on waiting several weeks or a month or two to get into that, but I'm completely perplexed here. A month ago I would have been on him like white on rice, but now I'm tongue-tied about it. Maybe I'm looking at it wrong? Maybe it's not really a trust issue. Maybe it's something else.
I just don't know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question'hummm let me think...oh I've got it!'
That sure sounded like sarcastic for me. And forgive me, oldersister, if I'm a little ticked off since I just pretty much beared my soul and interpreted something differently from what you read. It was not a personal attack on you. I appologize for sort of lumping you in on that. :(
eyeswideopen just doesn't seem very passionate about her job/hobby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFurther more, I'm rather disappointed. All this hype about DearCupid 'oh, it's so great', and then I get a response like that after asking a ligitimate question. So much for this site.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioneyeswideopen, I don't really appreciate your sarcastic tone. So much for getting anything helpful.
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reader, tebuny +, writes (20 March 2008):
well, here's something that works for me. have the i dont care attitude. have the mindset that you dont care if he kisses bad, or he cheats on you, or if he lies to you. it'll work. then you dont have to call him all the time. and he will never suspect. unless you're really sure he's the one for you, do not trust him! but if u r sure, and that means he's 1% near perfect since no one can be perfect, means u he hides NOTHING from you, even if its top secret in the CIA file, then u can trust him with all of your heart, and risk him destroying you and tearing your heart into shreds. good luck sweet heart
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 March 2008):
Let's see...it's Thursday and you started dating on Monday, hummm let me think...Oh I've got it! Move very slowly and then move a little slower. And nix on the groping.
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