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writes:My situation is about some trust issues. I have problems trusting my boyfriend because of the past. When I am with him, and he goes out with friends (without me) I am perfectly fine. When I am away from him, this is where the problem is. I had called him long distance onto the cellphone, he said he is out with his guy friend but when i got back, i found out later it was with a girl. Right now, I am away from him, and i called him to just talk and he was giving me attitude over the phone, and from this I assume someone else was present with him. At this moment, I cannot believe in him because of the past even though I would like to. What can I do?
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reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 i think it's important to remember that although other people can give good advice who have experienced similiar situations; no two situations are the same so remember to make their answers relatable and not necessarily take them word for word
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): I've been thru this same situation, in 2006 i caught him in all his lies. we broke up and then we started talking again. Then i caught him and the girl coming out of a store together one morning a week later,the same girl he was seeing. We were together 4yrs., i found out he was with her 3yrs. 6 months later he comes crawling back and still lying. So my answer to u is that he can't be trusted, if he is displaying the same behavior and giving u attitude, is because u up on his business. I decided that since i can't trust him, to let go. Less headache, heartache and confusion. U will meet someone else, just find things to do keep urself busy doing something. The best way to get to him is to ignore him in every way. No conversation, emails, text messaging or going in his directions and no phone calls no matter how bad it hurts. Trust me it works, he still trying to come back. Lay ur ground rules. He only does this because u allow him to and when he does this, he knows he can get u back easily and with no problem. Don't go after him, let him come after u
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reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff +, writes (13 May 2007):
do you mean because of what past boyfriends ahev doen to you or th epast as in when he told you he was with a boy when he was with a girl?
i think you should try and get your self out of this negative way of looking ta things, for your own sake. maybe tell your boyfriend how you're feeling but in a way that isn't accusing him and he may reassure you. afterall it is only your own suspicions that are doing this to you not anything he has actually done.
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reader, love-him +, writes (12 May 2007):
 i dont understand what you mean by the past? but maybe talk to him when you next see him and say, is there anything else going on, and wehat are his true feelings about you. i know you believe there was someone else with him, but that could just be your imagination. obviously this cant be proved so i think you should put that to the back of your mind. he has obviously lied to you telling you it was a male friend, and you have found out it was a girl. maybe he did this because you would over react if he told you the trut, but even so he shouldnt have lied to you. talk to him, if he doenst give you the answers you need or doesnt prove his love to you, then leave him, hes not worth the hassel, your worth more than he is. hope i helped x x x
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