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16-17,
anonymous
writes:I've got this weird situation...well, i just dont have a sex drive, i know this sounds normal, but its not just the sex drive im missing - its everything.I know when sombody is attractive, but i never have the urge to want to touch them, or like them any further than a friend. Is this normal?I'm actualy the only person i know, and the only person my friends know that dont even like hugs.I dont want a relationship, i dont want love, i dont like the idea of sex, not that i find it disturbing. I know all about it, i'm nearly 16 and i make "sexual jokes"... i'm not scared of it, i just have no drive to do it, i dont even want any form of relationship.I havnt had my first kiss yet, and to be frank, i dont want one.Please... is this normal?
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reader, WastedLife  + ♥, writes (6 May 2008):
You might want to check out Asperger's Syndrome - a fairly common variation on being human. It's far more common in guys(3:1) and it may originally show as being far more interested in things than people. Many Aspies do want romantic/sexual connection, and many don't. They do have a different way of relating to the world though. Just remember that if you are Aspie, you are in good company, such as Albert Einstein, Nicola Tesla, and Bram Cohen. If you are Aspie and don't want sex/romance, just be happy and get on with your life. If you ever do, you will have a lot of emotional learning to do. Good luck.
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reader, Jen86 +, writes (6 May 2008):
ur fine dude. Stop stressing about it and just wait for nature to take its course. I was 18 when i had my 1st kiss. Its not that big a deal. Ignore all the peer pressure and wait until u find someone right for u. I wans't interested in hugs and couldn't stand them til i started going out with my bf who is only my 2nd one and i'm 22! Its normal. Wait for the hormones to kick in.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (6 May 2008):
 you are just fine kiddo. But you will either just get laid by accident ( it happens) I think most first times could be classified as accidents. And life as you know it will be over. Or some little gum smacking tornado with one hand on her hip and the other jabbing you in the chest with her finger will just make you start forgetting where you put your car keys and your wallet and books and forget your homework assignment and make you pole vault through the house every time the phone rings. And well... you'll see. And if it ain't girls don't let anyone tell you it's wrong to like a guy OK? Just in case .No I can not read anything into your letter I just want to throw down first. And tell you now its OK to like what you like. And if its guys don't waste your time and hers trying to conform to somebody else's Idea of what constitutes romance
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reader, Kimaxsi +, writes (6 May 2008):
Normal is relative, but I don't think there's anything wrong with you at all. Just be true to yourself, right now you've probably got plenty going on in your life as is. Just enjoy it, later you may start desiring for those things, it'll happen when you're ready. If it doesn't, it doesn't you know some people really just are asexual and there's nothing wrong with that, despite what people might tell you.
Can I ask you if you've hit puberty yet?
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