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writes:hi, i have met this girl through a mate and we are kind of getting with each other privately just to see how it goes, we allways get off with each other, snog and stuff, but i would like some advice on taking it further... im still a virgin so obviously have no experience, she has slept with 5 lads, 1 one-night stand and 4 in a relationship, what are the obvious signs that i should initiate sex? as the lad i feel it is my job to initiate it, for example the other day at my mates house, my mate went to work leaving us two, she rolled over onto me (we was lying down on his bed) rest her hed on my chest, looked up at me so i got off with her and she rolled on top of me very slightly and started rubbing the back of my head/neck, i meen is that a obvious sign she wanted me to take it further? and if it was, what should i have done? i dont know if we are doing all this for a bit of fun, or if we are hoping it works out into a proper relation ship, because if its just a bit of fun, i dont want to not make my move and leave it too late, please help any advice would be hugely appreciated thank you
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 I've alwayst taken it as a "sign" that a girl wants to go a little further, if she ties rope around her wrists, ties those cords to the bed-posts and lays out, naked, and says to me, "You know, stud-boy, I think that I have something that YOU want.... and you have something that I want..... let's compare notes...."
Works EVERY time....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 You've done snogging and I imagine you had that talk about experience. She knew you are a virgin so she won't expect too much from you. She sounds like she is not against a bit of fun although you can never tell when she is ready for sex. You can do everything else but, and then she stops you when you want to take off her undies.
You said you were lying on your mates' bed. You had that chance because he left for work. Nothing happened because it's not your bed. I wouldn't recommend having sex on his bed without his permission. I would be put off as well and I think anybody would. We all prefer a private space and we feel embarrassed leaving bodily fluids on another person's bed.
You should hang out more and see if there are other places you can be intimate. She likes you but no one knows what the future would bring. You are still getting to know each other. Good luck to you on your first time.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 Once she's unbuttoned her blouse then the chase is on until then just snog and stuff(whatever that is)
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 Dear OP,First off how long have you known this girl,if your not sure yet as to if this can lead into a relationship or not I'm guessing it hasn't been that long!Take her out on dates,spend more time and tell her exactly how you feel OP,trust be cutting straight to the point is so much better than beating around the bush!If you want what you have with her to culminate into a relationship then you need to her,that for you 'sex' is very important and that you would want to do it only when ur in a relationship cuz you don't like it causual..And as far as reading signs goes from your post yes I she definitely wants more,now I don't know if it was 'sex' or to get more 'intimate'..if I were you I would have a conversation about this with her!considering 'sex' is important and you just don't want to lose your virginity to anyone! And yeah when you finally get down to it,practise safe sex;) and to be safer if you know your partner has had a one night stands and many relationship I always suggest getting tested for std's..good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): Please don't rush and don't worry too much! If she's a girl you really like (as opposed to one you just want to have sex with), she'll really appreciate you waiting. And TALK ABOUT IT :)No reason to guess what she's thinking. Say something to her like, how long do you think we should date before we have sex? 1 month? 3 months? Personally, I think it's better if you're in love, but to each his own.When you both agree that the time is right, then you'll know what to do :)Just take it slow, lost of kissing, touching...PS. Don't look at being a virgin as a negative...I think most girls would rather date a virgin than some guy who has slept with 20 girls!!
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