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writes:I have just found out that my boyfriend of 3 years kissed a guy before we met but I have just discovered that he is on a swingers site and his profile is very detailed about him wanting a threesome and he wants to be in the middle. It also said he's seeking both sexes. As I have never doubted his sexuality before I am very surprised and I have recently found out I am pregnant too! I really don't know what to think or do about this. Can you help? Thanks x
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reader, 17Irish17  +, writes (5 March 2008):
It might be pretty strong to label him as "Gay". For what ever reason a lot of men like to watch and/or participate in a 3 some with their significant other. Does that make her a lesbian?He may be bisexual, and is emaressed or afraid to discuss that side of his sexuality with you. He probably loves you, but also likes to par take in sex with males.You have to discuss it with him. Then the ball is in your court. Can you accept this or do you move on?Good luck
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 February 2008):
 HEY!!
If he is still ACTIVELY on the swingers website then talk to him, there is a chance he made this account and forgot about it.. (check for the last active bit on his profile if there is one)
GOOD LUCK!! Feel free to mail me at any time x x
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (26 February 2008):
 I think you need to sit down and talk to him, dont be annoyed at his past. think of your future, tell him what you are adn not comfortable with and TALK x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Sounds like he is GAY to me. I don't agree with the posters who state that you need to love him more and talk with him. This man, if he still has a profile on a website now after 3 years and has stated he is looking for both sexes....is indeed gay! You can call it bi-sexual, gay, metro sexual, or whatever you choose to, but this dude is gay and YOU should take all necessary precautions with him.Keep this in mind.....he will not change this behavior, but will only hide it better from you the next time.
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reader, leonard j. Douglas +, writes (26 February 2008):
If he kissed a guy before you two met and didn't turn into a frog, Gee! You are lucky. As for a threesome,it makes for a sick relationship before marriage and as a rule will end it PDQ. Perhaps he is watching too much Porn.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (26 February 2008):
 It depends on how you feel about it. I would be upset that he never told me since it is pretty important. If you don't trust him and you think he may be pursuing these interests, I would make sure you use protection if you continue to have sex with him. If he has a profile online that is "seeking" both sexes, to me it would indicate just that.
3 years is a very long time for him to keep this on the "down low" and it is disturbing that he could lead a double life for that long without you knowing.
I don't blame you for being confused and I would use a condom if I were in your shoes.
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reader, Aylarsh +, writes (26 February 2008):
 You two have been together for 3 years and you love each other. I wouldn't be mad at him at all or anything, it was his choice to do this and it's before you met so it's not like he's cheating on you. He could be doing worse. He needs you now and you should probably confront him. I agree that he should shape up since he wants a threesome. tell him how you feel and that you are pregnant with his child. Just sit him down at an appropriate time and very calmly talk to him in a strong firm but soft voice. Good luck and if you have any questions or anything then please message me! Good luck love!!
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