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writes:I have fancied so many boys in my life, it's unbelieveable! but nobody fancies me...I really cannot understand why, i always feel i look my best for school and alot of my friends say i'm really bonny, i don't agree with them so much with that - i'm quite average looking, i'd say!I'm also a very shy student, and aren't very popular - i'm assuming this is why boys don't tend to notice me! I am 15 and never had a boyfriend, i'm so fed up and feel that i am ready to start a relationshipLoads of girls in my year have boyfriends! so why don't they like me? :(
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reader, Carina  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Aaaaw. I understand very much how you feel. Big hug. First remember that you don't HAVE to have a boyfriend. I know it sometimes seems that everyone else has boyfriends, but in my experience many of those relationships are based on the girls feeling insecure and the boys experimenting, which isn't what you're looking for. It's well worth waiting for the right one, otherwise you often end up hurt and confused.
Another thing to remember is that girls mature more quickly than boys. Often a girl your age is very ready for a relationship but many boys aged 13 to 17 are terrified of girls, even if they don't show it! :-)
The best thing you can do is relax about the whole issue. I'm sure you're very attractive and it's great that you like to look good, but don't obsess about it. Concentrate on having fun with your friends and being yourself. The more relaxed you are the more attractive you'll seem to those scared guys! Lead your own life and try not to see guys as possible boyfriends, but just as people you enjoy being with.
So, in a nutshell: be yourself, be confident and relaxed, don't obsess and try to distract yourself by spending time with friends. I promise you, one day some gorgeous guy will turn up. Hope that helps a bit.
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reader, Carina +, writes (24 May 2007):
Aaaaw. I understand very much how you feel. Big hug. First remember that you don't HAVE to have a boyfriend. I know it sometimes seems that everyone else has boyfriends, but in my experience many of those relationships are based on the girls feeling insecure and the boys experimenting, which isn't what you're looking for. It's well worth waiting for the right one, otherwise you often end up hurt and confused.
Another thing to remember is that girls mature more quickly than boys. Often a girl your age is very ready for a relationship but many boys aged 13 to 17 are terrified of girls, even if they don't show it! :-)
The best thing you can do is relax about the whole issue. I'm sure you're very attractive and it's great that you like to look good, but don't obsess about it. Concentrate on having fun with your friends and being yourself. The more relaxed you are the more attractive you'll seem to those scared guys! Lead your own life and try not to see guys as possible boyfriends, but just as people you enjoy being with.
So, in a nutshell: be yourself, be confident and relaxed, don't obsess and try to distract yourself by spending time with friends. I promise you, one day some gorgeous guy will turn up. Hope that helps a bit.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 There are several ways to answer your question.I could easily say you do not understand boys. Although this is true, a thorough study of Boy Dreaming would rather be too complicated to make here.You can have a look at yourself and think about why having a boyfriend is so much important for you."Loads of girls in my year have boyfriends! so why don't they like me?" - I guess that is the answer.Such girls don't like you, because they envy you; wanting to be "successful and popular" is an issue.
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