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writes:hi in two days i am going to alton towers and my friend likes this boy and she is going to tell him how she feels when we are there but i am afraid that he will just laugh in her face because i see him flirt alot somtimes with me ! but i push him away i dont want to see my friend get hurt or made fun of how can i tell her how i feel !
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I'm going to disagree with the previous advice. I wouldn't tell her. Quite simply, you don't know what this boy feels for your friend or what her motivations are for wanting to tell him.
It is possible that he likes you, but it is also possible that he is just a flirty guy. Unless he has told you that he dislikes your friend, or that he would find her attraction to him laughable, I would trust that your friend will be able to handle the situation. I am sure that she knows that she may rejected, and she she is still taking the courage to tell him. I think that that is wonderfully brave and should be encouraged.
If it doesn't work out the way she wants, that is just part of life. But your friend seems to understand that taking risks is sometimes needed. Support her in that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007): I think you owe it to your friend to at least tell her what you know about this guy and then allow her to decide. I am sure you would want to know, if you were in her shoes. You simply tell her,
"You are my friend and I appreciate you a lot. Because of our friendship, I don't want to see you get hurt. I have something to tell you that you may not want to hear. But it might help you make a decison as to whether this guy is the right one for you. I do have some real concerns about this guy's sincerity. And the reason I feel this way is....(you tell her what you know)."
Simple as that. Truthful and honest. After that, there is nothing more you can do. Then she makes her own choice as to whether she tells him her feelings. Good luck and I hop you do the right thing by her...by letting her know what you know.
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reader, Dinkie +, writes (23 May 2007):
i think you should tell your friend that you know she likes him but that u have seen him be flirty with other people and that ur not sure that he feels the same way she does. that way atleast u'v told her wat u think but u need to let her make her own choice of telling him or not
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