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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a problem concerning friends. I always have tried to keep a close group of them and to have honesty and trust. Well, today a coworker told me that one of my friends told her some things that she didn't want me to know. The coworker told me that the friend had done some things sexually with her boyfriend of two months and didn't want to tell me because she thought I would disapprove (although I have told her over and over that I don't care what she does with him). She also told the coworker that I hadn't done anything at all with my boyfriend and that I didn't even know how to kiss (something she swore she would take to her grave). I feel like this friend is being very fake to me by acting like she understands me and then turning around and laughing about me to my coworker. Not to mention how she acts like she's scared of what I think when I've never said anything bad about her behavior. I've heard about her gossiping behind my back before, but don't want to believe it. But I can't help being upset by the fact that she portrays me as such a prude-ish, uptight and judgemental person. How should I deal with this?
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Confront her. Ask her her to explain herself. She can deny it all she wants but how else would the coworker no uve havent been kissed?
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reader, Sex_counsellor  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 I think you need to think carefully about what things you share with your so called friend. They should not say things like that behind your back at all. I would also suggest that you think about reading up on some information online about sex and relationships so that you can feel more confident in your current relationship. If you need help or advice I would suggest using this site as it is anonymous and there is no risk of things that you do not want sharing getting back to anyone. I would confront your "friend" though and maybe if you explained your feelings she may understand exactly what she has done. Hope this helps?
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