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writes:I have a bad past and need to talk to someone but I have no one to talk to.My "friends" all have bfs/ gfs and when I try to talk to them alone they just say " I dunno what to say, sorry" then run back to their partners as if we hadn't spoken at all.I'm single, but I'm happy being single becoz I've been in relationship after relationship and I need a time out. But then again,in the past, having a bf meant that I could talk to him... but everyone that I've been with has abused my trust.I used to have a counsellor but after I'd asked her to keep it confidential, she told my parents ( I asked her specifically not to. No one was under threat, so she had no reason to tell them.)I feel that my trust is ALWAYS being violated.I cry everyday, find it difficult to sleep and feel sick an awful lot.What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Your counsellor shouldnt have spoken to your parents, i think that he/she did so because of your age.
If you have a friend you can trust why not arrange to meet one when they arent with their partners and have a chat to one of them about how you feel.
If not Im alway here to talk to :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): I know where you are- I have been there too. You ahve been raised in an emotionally abusive environment- so you will unconconsciously attract people who will continue the abuse in your life. weather you like it or not thats the patterns that are fufilled- that is all you are comfortable with. If I were you- try to seek out a therapist confidentially- tell them that you want to be deprogrammed and reprogrammed becuase you arent attracting the right people into your life- almost ALL therapists shoud know how to deal with emotional abuse and the chemical imbalances it causes in your brain formation. I reccomend going to the library- reading up on some books, I reccomend "Healing the emotional scars of abuse"- It talks alot about being discounted, not heard and being invalidated, ignored and having trust betrayed over and over again.. I really think it might help. Good luck.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Until you're 18, a counselor is always going to run to your parents. You can't really trust a counselor unless you're paying for their time. If you can somehow afford it, you could go that route, and they live under a confidentiality clause. You need to tell your counselor that she violated your trust, and has not helped, but helped to escalate the problem. You're stressed out, and you're probably getting ulcers. Just take baby steps, and make someone earn your trust. Be careful putting your heart out there. A heart is something to be earned. When you start crying, remember that you are special, and deserve better.
DV1
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