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writes: I've started college after a 2 month relationship with my bf through the holidays, and things are really difficult. I hate college so much that I would walk right out of that door if i didn't know that I wouldn't be able to get a job without these qualifications. But it's so hard, I can't stop reminicing over how perfect everything was a month ago, and how i wish i could go back. My bf is unemployed and depressed about it, and we're not spending quality time together any more because niether of us have the time or the money. When we are together all we ever seem to do is have sex. What can we do? We really do love eachother, and neither of us are ready to break it off.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (21 September 2006):
 Well dear I know it is very hard but college i very important very very important your boyfriend shoud understand it and you should understand that the degree you choose is never what you expected and that is is to be hard to settle down in college make new friends and study through all kind of diffuculties that may come up on your way, it is a part of growing up and turning into adults, it is not a fairy tale dear teachers are not your parents and people who may look as friends may not stand up for you and this goes for boyfriends too, yo must be responsible and study love life is important but you cannot compromise your future because of it maybe this boy is theo one but maybe not if you drop college because of him and the he splits up with you who will have depression then?Summer is a time to relax, now is time to settle down to hard work and trying to find the right circle of friends to support and help you through college life, I sudied in my country and abroad I've seen many things dear,trust me...the boy is not a panacea or a magical remedy for your fears to encounter college life a very new and important period of life. Please consider that if he's to be the one for you your professional skills will help you both...try to get him interested in getting a better qualification or to find a job in your college area if possible if he keeps on making you feel this insecure about college maybe you should look for somebody who has the same interests as you or that studies a degree as well do he can understand you betterlots of love I know it is to be hard but it's a normal part of life, try to concentrate and do readings on your subjects at college, meet people and enjoy going out too but please take care loveASTRID
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006): Well you seem to have taken it one step further than me. I was with a guy that i fell in love with, even though we were only together for a few months. Everything seemed perfect with us but suddenly he ended up breaking with me up because he was going travelling for a couple of months and I was going back to my final year at uni, which was quite a distance from where we lived. Admittedly, it may have been difficult to continue the relationship between us over 200 miles and looking back now, I don't want jeopardise my final year so maybe it was a good idea that things ended. I still miss him like crazy and also want things back the same we were, but you have to thing of yourself first - at the end of the day, surely your career comes before anything, especially as you're young? As hard as it is to do, it might be worth you while to give it a break perhaps? Then maybe you may appreciate each other more and find other things to do. As you say, your boyfriend is unemployed and obviously won't be able to bring much income into your relationship, whereas you are at college, and although you don't enjoy it, things may liven up and at the end of the day, you could end up with a good job. Stick with it!! Put yourself first!! At the end of the day, if you do continue at college and not see this guy, and if things are right between you and he'll wait for you to finish, who knows what may happen!
I hope that this may help a little, and that you find the right decision!
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