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writes: dear cupid-I've been married 23 yrs to a good woman.however we are mostly :"freinds" now.About totally sexless. @ yrs ago I was playing games on the net when a woamn asked me to paly w/ her & freind.it was "dirty scrabble".had a blast. I was down at the time & this wonderful lifted my spirits.we slowly went from freinds to internet lovers.we sent each other pics-gifts-letters.she gat seperated 4 months later.we even got more wild-having cyber sex-webcam.this was my sexlife for 2 yrs ( mostly).we were to meet finally-we were getting excited-had reservations-iwe were nervous but excited.well 2 days b4 our meet she cancelled.it devistated me.then when i got back she went awol.anyway turns out she started seeing someone wayyyyy younger.she calls me e-mails-saying she loves me more -but keeps seeing him.well-i am a mess.i cry for her-miss her so much.its harder than i ever imagined.i hadn't cheated on my wife for 20 yrs-but was willing to risk all for her--even thinking of moving near her ( 1500 miles away).i can't leave my wife w/o making sure she 's taken care of economically.and i can't stand being away from my straying love.what can i do? floundering
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reader, DreamMaster  +, writes (17 December 2005):
 What a way to live a life... You are telling me that your sex life for 2 years was in front of your computer?? Maybe this other woman wanted a real live man, not a pixelated one.
How can you say you love this woman when you never met? This isnt love, its some other thing (probably sexual frustration combined with some other bad characteristic), but it isnt love.
You have cheated on your wife before, were willing to again, do you have so little respect for her now? You might think about ending it to make room in both of your lives so that you can meet someone you want to actually spend the rest of your life with.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 December 2005):
 What can you do? How about for starters you quit your whining and get a backbone. Show some respect for your wife. If you can't show any honor and integrity then do her a favor and grant her a divorce so she can find herself a decent man who will treat her in the manner she most certainly deserves. Then you can wallow in that cyber pig trough you so love.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (17 December 2005):
 Hi there. its obvious this girl doesnt want anything serious with u. am afraid u meet so many people like that on the internet. she has not only avoid meeting u in the flesh but has also started a relationship with someone else. well this is my opinion but it would be better to forget about this girl. I know its hard i too have had a horrible experience myself but u have to be strong. U said u r married to a good woman but ur marriage is sexless. ask ypurself this is your marriage worth saving?If so u can look for ways to improve ur sex life. talk to ur wife and let her know her u really feel. get her involved. since u indicated she is a good woman i bet she will anything to try to improve things between u two. either that or u take the chance of going after this girl who obviously isnt serious and might just run off with another guy leaving u very lonely and miserable. think about it the choice is yours really. sincerely wish u all the best.
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