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writes:I’m new at a school, and I’m trying to get into a relationship with a girl. Every time I’m with her, my friends would come and interrupt the conversation. This happened quite a few times and I kept the anger bottled up. I have a short temper, so recently, I told them if they come and interrupt me and the girl again I would fight with one of them. Now I’m not friends with them anymore and I haven’t got any other friends because I’m still new at the school. Did I do the right thing by getting angry and confronting them and losing the friendship at the same time? Reply to this Question
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reader, The Girl with the Diver's Hair  +, writes (26 February 2011):
Maybe you should not have had a go and threatened them just said calmly "back off a bit" but its not your fault your new. Just say sorry they may understand. Big move has got you stressed and you were upset.
Good Luck. E x
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 You didn't do the wrong thing by getting angry or confronting them, but you confronted them all wrong. Did you even give them the benefit of the doubt and start by calmly talking to them about it? Had you ever indicated that you wanted to be left alone in a friendly way? Or did you just go straight to threatening them?
I highly doubt that the girl would be or was impressed by that display. If you still want to be friends with those guys, try apologizing and explain to them that you were just frustrated because you were trying to get that girl to go on a date with you. Do it calmly and acknowledge that you did the wrong thing by blowing up at them. Maybe it'll turn out for the better.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (26 February 2011):
 This is just a learning curve and hopefully you'll never forget this moment. We all have these moments in life, just don't dwell on the negative aspect of this situation and use it to better yourself.As you know, you need to work on being more honest with your feelings; to avoid boiling points of suppressed emotions. Its important to respect others feelings the way you want your feelings respected. Seems like they just wanted to chill out with you, that's nothing to yell at someone for. The fact you suddenly blasted at your friends with anger isn't very caring, and rather backstabbing. It would've been better to greet them kindly and say something like, "Do you mind if we talk about this later? ...we're having a moment if you get my drift. (*wink)" Also, make sure you really do make time for your friends as well, so they don't feel left out all the time.You may not have totally ended your friendship/s, try getting them together and apologizing, letting them know you'll work on being honest with your feelings as they come up. Ask for forgiveness.Take Care.
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