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*manda765
writes:Okay so there was this guy and at first I liked him. He would tell me I was special and make me feel good about myself, and he would act like he liked me too. And to be honest I think he did. He would come to my games and watch and cheer me on. He would sit at he very top of the bleachers and he would blow me kisses and make hearts with his hands. He made me feel like we had something, and with him being one of the most popular kids in school I thought I was doing pretty damn good. He made it so people knew my name and in a new school I liked that feeling of popularity. For months, in the first marking period in school, he sat behind me in homeroom, history, math, and spanish. In every class he would ask me over and over if I would hookup with him and I always was persistent and said no. I knew that if things started simple he would want me to do more and more and I didn’t want to be put out in that awkward situation. Than, one day, before I knew it I was there alone with him in the dark. He started to come closer to me and when he was close enough he kissed me. I pulled away but he grabbed my hand. He pulled me closer and we started to make out. He wanted to go farther but I wouldnt. The next month in school he started to ignore me and treat me differently. I remember going to my friends and being upset because I wasn’t sure what happened. We were all good and than he suddenly stopped talking to me. As he did it more and more he found out that a lot of people would feel entertain by him being mean to me and as he did it more he would gain more “listeners”. or people that were interested. I honest don’t think he ever knew how much it really hurt me and would bother me when he said mean things about me. He never really understood the pain I felt because no one would dare make fun of him. Before I knew it I had more people badgering me about hooking up with him than I could handle. He eventually got mad that I didnt want to have sex with him and he started making fun of me in school he would badger me about it and would make people call me names and everything. He told me if i sent naked pictures of myself he would stop. I was so distraught and upset that I sent them. Now my dad hhas found out about the whole staory and is forcing me to transfer schools. I am really upset and need a way to convince him that I should stay at my old school with my friends. Please Help.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 September 2011):
 What an ASSHAT! I'm sorry that happened to you. First of all your Dad is only looking out for you. BUT he needs to address the school and this kid (+ his parents) about those pictures they need to dissapear.This is bullyiong and peer pressure. That kid needs to be stopped, because if he doesn't he will do it again and again.
Take this as a learning experience honey. DON'T let other pressure you into doing things you don't want to do. BE glad you didn't hook up with him. Be proud that you stood your ground on that. Now in to future don't let anyone badger you. Tell them to sod off!
YOU have to stand up for YOU. SCREW popularity. It's fleeting anyhow. And if THAT is what it takes to be popular? who wants it?
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (6 September 2011):
 Your Dad is only trying to protect you. Talk to him about your feelings.
You may not convince him, but the two of you need to talk about what happened. He is your parent and in charge of what he thinks is best for you.
He just does not want to see you get any more hurt/manipulated.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 What do you think this boy did with your nude pictures? Do you think he kept them to himself or do you think he shared them with others? Do you think he'll delete them anytime soon?
Your father might change his mind once the anger and fear and other emotions have settled, but a fresh start might not be a bad thing...
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (6 September 2011):
 You did the right and sensible thing by refusing to give in to this boy's demands. But, your commonsense apparently deserted you when you agreed to send him nude photos!
This boy just wanted you to have sex with him, and evidently he got a lot of the other schoolchildren to pressure you as well.
Your Dad is wise to transfer you to another school - you'll be able to make a fresh start and will make new friends there. Your father has your wellbeing at heart.
Unfortunately, this has been a bitter lesson for you.......best thing is to learn from it, and start over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): I think your Dads just protecting his daughter,his little girl.
I don't know how he found out about the photos but it means that the gossip is out there and it must have been a shock for him.
This lad is a nasty bit of work and treated you very badly. You were mad to send nude photos. Could your Dad be persuaded to meet and talk to his parents and make sure the photos are deleted and request he leaves you alone - so you can stay at school - as he seems to be the root of your problems.
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (6 September 2011):
Clearly this horrid boy is after nothing other then sex!!! So look at it this way, you said no to sleeping with him so you should be patting yourself on your back for that as you didn;t give in to him and regret what would of been a very bad mistake. Yes you sent photos of yourself to him, which was stupid, but being that you were under alot of pressure from him and almost being bullied into it i think you and your parents should go and talk to the school principal and discuss the fact that this horrid kid has pressured you into something you probably didn;t want to do and has been bullying you because you didn;t want to sleep with the little scum bag.
Talk to your dad about this, as it could happen at any school. You will only end up at a different school with similar jocks.
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