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writes: Me and my girlfriend are in a commitment relationship and currently living apart, in a long distance relationship. I stopped drinking and partying for us, changing over to a new leaf of life so to speak. However she continues to drink and party and sometimes it gets to me when I call her late nyte friday, she's partying sounding drowsy. I'm definetly not comfortable with it and so have asked her to chose between me and that lifestyle, Is it ryte to be commited and party, drink while the other partner doesnt, or maybe its a case of different commitment levels and we should just breakup
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reader, claire_x100 +, writes (18 September 2006):
 To be honest your apart and living different lives you prefer not to drink or party but she doesnt. Being in a commited relationship doesnt mean you give up on what you like to do. Fair enough if it was every night and was getting stupidly drunk. Or is it you may not trust her if she gets too drunk something may happen and your not there. Explain to her how your feeling but you can only change people slowly depending how long this is been going on she may need more time adjusting to it. Good Luck.
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reader, soulmasseur +, writes (18 September 2006):
Let's be honest: you think she should change over to your way of commitment or enjoy the same level of your new lifestyle, what do you believe forces her to get along with you? And why do you keep on deluding yourself into something that is not there? She has not percieved the value of and the need for a "radical change" in her life and that's natural that she still flirts with the old principles. I guess it's not the right time for her to change. Do you think you can give her more time and opportunities or she's had it enough? The answer is vital because it shows you how further than this you can move along with this.
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