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I have gone through so much with all my mates i always help them, and it always works what i say. I can pick up on things easily and i try and put myself in their shoes. I live in england, (hertfordshire). People who only think about themseleves especially when you have helped them that reli annoys me. Im currently with some one.

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I have strong feelings for this guy and he's interested. But I am nervous and hopeful, he'll feel the same way! Any advice?

Q.   Recently I told my friend that I have feelings for him. He responded that he would like to get to know me better, and asked me what I thought of this idea. I said this was great, and we are now going to start spending time alone together. I am a ...

A.   1 October 2006: Well you've told him and he wants to know you better so all you can do is keep doing what you are doing. Just flirt have a laugh get to know him. Then as soon as you know it will all fall into place and you will be with him . Good Luck. ... (read in full...)

Is my new guy just being overly jealous that I want to meet up with my ex ?

Q.   I met a really nice guy a few months ago, and although it has had it's ups and downs, we get on well. My ex got back in contact about some furniture he had left around mine and wants to come and pick it up. He also has a front door key that he ...

A.   20 September 2006: Your fella may be jealous, i mean if my bf was you i would be i wouldnt wnat him and his ex. Just put yourself in his shoes and try and understand where hes coming from. Why would you want to keep in contact with your ex he treated you badly, you ... (read in full...)

He wanted to break up but said he still loved me...is he only saying he loves me to make it easier for me?

Q.   My boyfriend has just moved away to university and i've stayed at home. Its not far, maybe 25 minuites on the train, we always said we'd stay together, until the day he went, we hadn't seen each other for a couple of weeks before he went because we ...

A.   20 September 2006: To make things easier for you talk to him ask him, about trying it again if he says no (hopefully wont) then say well why do you keep telling me you love me. It will be natural for him still loving you because if your relationship was reli good then ... (read in full...)

Why wont he just admit he is jealous, admit he has feelings for me!!

Q.   Hi ya, hope you can help, im in a situation with a male friend basically I have told him I love him, he wont make any comment to the fact that I love him and basically I have given up telling him how I feel for fear of rejection. The one problem I ...

A.   19 September 2006: Well maybe he isnt sure. Just ask him why he always brings it up, have a laugh go are you jealous. See what his reaction is, maybe he just doesnt know how tell you or that he may think you gone off him because you had given up. Just play it about. ... (read in full...)

Why did we break up ? What the hell is going on??

Q.   ok well i'm back for more great advice!!! ok my girlfriend text me the otherday and asked me if i was going to homecoming, i am a shy kinda guy and i hate going to school events so i said that i was not sure, she replyed saying "ok, there is a guy ...

A.   18 September 2006: To be honest im shocked you've gone through the whole txt sex and phone sex. I think it is you dont spend time with her and maybe shes missing that attention. I know my guy doesnt give me alot of attention so you crave it from people who will. Just ... (read in full...)

Am I reading too much into it or does he want to get back together ??

Q.   My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago now and we have still remained friends. Two days ago I was speaking to him and he was concerned about where I've been because I haven't returned his call from the night before. Then, during our ...

A.   18 September 2006: I think he does want to get back with you, next time u speak to him bring it up ask him what he actually ment he wanted to try it again, or just saying it because you have stayed friends and talk it is harder sometimes to get other the person. I ... (read in full...)

We started cuddling and holding hands. What does this mean?

Q.   well i recently posted about me liking a guy but our parents are best pals well today i went to his house cos im close wif his faimly and his mum and dad had to go out. so she left me and him alone. i was lying on the couch and started driftin...

A.   18 September 2006: Well he either wanted something which i doubt. But that he likes you.. Try and get in that situation again and if he does it ask him about it. If not if he brings it up then jus go for it. Good Luck. ... (read in full...)

Was he ticked off with me or embarrased because I said not to sex ??

Q.   Alright guys I have a question. I had a date over the weekend out of town. (He lives like 3 hours away.) Anyway, I stayed there because I didn't want to drive home at 3 in the morning. Long story short, he was supposed to be on duty early the next ...

A.   18 September 2006: Oh dear that bloke acted like a gimp. Sorry but, you had the right to say no. He was pissed off because he couldnt get any and if he cant accept your answers and hasnt spoken to you then hes not worth it. Maybe him and ask him but just make sure he ... (read in full...)

How can I let him know how I feel without coming on to strong ?

Q.   i recently have started going with a fella and he spilt up from his wife about 4 months ago and he 1 child to her and two step children and he is going through with a divorce from her! he has been hurt by her as she had an affair with someone else! ...

A.   18 September 2006: Divorce is a tough especially when there are kids involed, i suggest, cook a nice meal for him and just tell him you are here for him if he never needs someone. Maybe wit until the dovorce is final to make your next step into telling him how you ... (read in full...)

He only wants to stay friends, but I Love him, he said he would be sad if I dated others, but wont give me more!

Q.   Hi, hope somebody can help me with my dialema. I have this amazing male friend who I have known for a short period of time we meet every week and speak on the phone every day and in that short period I have fallen in love with him. He was hurt in ...

A.   18 September 2006: Well thers no more you can do you have tried discussing it he knows how you feel. i suggest you move on stay friends with him but i know how hard it will be but just try and be friends try gettin with some one new. Myabe he will realise what hes ... (read in full...)

How can I make me boyfriend appreciate me?

Q.   Heya I just want advice on how I can get my boyfriend running after me like that hes lucky to have me and that he can't treat me like sh*t and think i will still love him. What things can i do? thanks...

A.   18 September 2006: I know exactly how you feel im going through it myself. If it really gets to you tell him what hes doing, if not take the advice from people before ignore him let him get in touch with you get him to run to you. Good Luck. ... (read in full...)

He's acting weird what should I do???

Q.   there's this guy i really like but he's 3 years older than me. might not seem like much, but i'm only 13 and when we started going out his freinds started taking the piss and we split up. but then we got back together again, and then we split up ...

A.   18 September 2006: Well he shouldnt of broken up with you because of his mates shows how he still cares about what his mates think. If you still feel unsure talk to him say what is going on one minute you wona be with me the next you dont. If he wants to give it ... (read in full...)

Im 20 shes 14, is it legal to touch her up and kiss her ?

Q.   hiya i am 20 year old n me girl is 14 i was just wondering if legal to kiss me girl n touch her up im from the uk n need help to answer these questions i know im not allowed sexual intercourse but wondering if allowed any physical touching or ...

A.   18 September 2006: What is wrong, cant you get any one your own age. She is 14 regardless how you feel about each other she is still a child. I would understand if she was 16 because that is the legal age over in the uk. My suggestion is I wouldnt bother you could go ... (read in full...)

Do you think he fancies me or are we just good mates???

Q.   hi im 15. Would u say my boy mate fancies me cos if he sees me in the corridor he pokes me or bangs into me as a joke and smiles. hes the same age as me. And sometimes when i am sitting down eating my lunch he says to one of his mates "oh if u w...

A.   18 September 2006: Well is a bit tough, i have this problem and sometimes i havent realised that they do. Just if he says that about if you want sexual advise turn it around and say well he should just ask you, you know you gave me the advis, give a little smile and ... (read in full...)

I've never met the boy I am going out with on chat, what would be cheating?

Q.   dear evyone i have a problem, this may seem stupid but i have kinda ben going out wiv this lad i mt online in a chat room we have never met though so im nt sure if it wud b cheating if i went out wiv this lad thts in my class at schhol? plz help i ...

A.   18 September 2006: You cant have a relationship over line if you have never met the person before, and do u think your going to meet him any time soon. I say your young go for the one in your school. Dont take thins the wrong way but ever thought that your "online ... (read in full...)

How can I tell him I want to be friends with him, without sounding desperate ?

Q.   In pevious questions, I said that I wanted ideas on regaining someones trust, well it seems that the person I was texting was not the person in question. Anyway my dilemma is that the guy in question I have actually spoken to him and said to him ...

A.   18 September 2006: i Dont think you can sound desperate asking to be friends. You have told him you like him did he say he liked you back? If you havent got to know this person you normally get to know them by being friends. I wouldnt ask just act like friends, if he ... (read in full...)

She confessed how she felt then backed off.. we both love each other but she says it cannot work!!

Q.   i'm in a rather odd situation in my life right now, and have no clue how to handle it. it started back about 7 or 8 months ago. this girl had a really big crush on me, yet we had never spoken at the time, so i had no clue. but one day, thinking ...

A.   18 September 2006: Well is there an age differnce? She just may feel scared , she might not of felt this way bout any one before. It can be a scary thing. Ive been in her situation before i was in love with this boy but jus didnt go for it i was soo scared that u felt ... (read in full...)

My ex wants me back after finding out my new boyfriend proposed...

Q.   Two years ago I fell for someone I shouldn't have, he was an old friend of our family and at least 25 years older than me. We acknowledged that there was feelings on both sides and tried to act as normal as possible around others. Eventually we ...

A.   18 September 2006: Well you dont want to live wondering your whole life, but then again you dont want to go through what you already been through with your family. This is tough but he hasnt made a effort telling how he felt about you until knowing you were getting ... (read in full...)

I gave up partying as I was committed to her, she however hasnt, I dont feel this is right advice please!

Q.   Me and my girlfriend are in a commitment relationship and currently living apart, in a long distance relationship. I stopped drinking and partying for us, changing over to a new leaf of life so to speak. However she continues to drink and party and ...

A.   18 September 2006: To be honest your apart and living different lives you prefer not to drink or party but she doesnt. Being in a commited relationship doesnt mean you give up on what you like to do. Fair enough if it was every night and was getting stupidly drunk. Or ... (read in full...)

My parents can't accept him because he's 25 and I'm 18...

Q.   Hi, I've got a problem. I'm 18, have been single for about a year now. Got out of a bad relationship, thank god. Anyway, my friend decided she wanted to set me up with someone. She told me he was 19. Tom and I went out and had an absolute bl...

A.   18 September 2006: It may be hard but you are in love. explain to your parents that hes not only just after one thing if they may think that and nothing has changed hes still the same person he was when they thought he was 19. You cant help who you fall in love with, ... (read in full...)

Have I scared him away ? Things were great after the date, now he hasnt replied to my mail or texts!!

Q.   Any suggestions gratefully recieved!! I went on a semi-blind date with a guy 2 weeks ago and we got on brilliantly - he was flirting like mad, as was I, and afterwards he asked if I work week-ends, when I was next around and said we'd have to boo...

A.   18 September 2006: I dont think you have, i think its a bit rude he hasnt replied to you but maybe hes been busy. I know its hard but try and just wait for him to get back to you, you dont wont to come across desperate. I know how you feel you cant stop thinking about ... (read in full...)

When my girl is with her friends she ignores me and shows off! Why would she act this way ??

Q.   I have a girlfriend we have been going out for over 10 months now, and we are very comftable with each other. The other day however, my family were having a gathering so I invited my girlfriend too come, as well as her mate and her mates sister and ...

A.   18 September 2006: Myabe your girlfirned is right she was jus making sure her mates were ok. I always find that when good mates get together they do tend to go into their own little worlds and forget about other people. Maybe when your out and she does it again pull ... (read in full...)

Cant bare the fact hes going away to university and this will be us over, hes soooo perfect!!

Q.   I have completely and utterly fallen for someone over the last seven months, completely! Ive never felt this way before, and i know this must seem like the everyday love story, but it really does take a lot for anyone to impress me, and my god this ...

A.   18 September 2006: AWW you have fallen, its hard to think that your at crossroads, just tell him how you feel see how he feels maybe you might go out and if it doesnt work atleast you know you tried it, but if you leave it you might never know. All you can do is sit ... (read in full...)

Im 17 hes 15, we have a sexual relationship that our are aware although know its illegal, is this allowed ?

Q.   i am 17, i have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now.only problem being hes younger than me, hes nearly 15. i know its strange but hes not your average 15 yr old mentally and physically. weve grown realy close, in a stable relationship and have ...

A.   18 September 2006: I know how you feel my bf is younger then me. But at the end of the day you to are in love and its both your first time so you wouldnt have done it if you didnt want to take your relationship further. But it is against the law, but if you explain to ... (read in full...)

He doesnt even know I exist, but friends say he would be perfect, how do I approach him ?

Q.   There is this person my friends have told me about, and they say I'd be perfect with him. Thing is, I know more about him then he knows about me at all... In other words he doesn't even know I exist. I really would like to get to know him better, ...

A.   18 September 2006: Just go for it get in a converstaion about something he likes. All you can do is try, you never know maybe he does know you exsists but just doesnt know how to approach you. Get one of your mates to help you start up a conversation, you will never ... (read in full...)

After a few weeks my boyfriend has turned POSSESSIVE!

Q.   i have boyfriend trouble theres this guy i have being going out with for a few weeks now and alll of a sudden he has become very possesive and phoning me every 10 minutes what should i do i dont want to loose him or carry on with the phone calls ...

A.   18 September 2006: Explain to him that he has changed and what has bought it on all the sudden. Tell him that you wona stay with him but cant handle the calls, he may of had a previous relationship which was unfathful. Make sure you hear what he has to say, sometimes ... (read in full...)

It is because he's a virgin or is it just "friend" love?

Q.   My new BF does not get turned on by me: I met my current BF online and after a year of constant communication and online video conversation, I went overseas to visit him. We spent a few days getting comfortable with each other but when it was ...

A.   18 September 2006: It probably mostly is because hes a virgin, and is scared of what you may think. Send cheeky messages or say cheeky things to him to boost his confidence. Maybe spend a bit more time kissing an touchin it might jus fall into place, if not try ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has COMPLETELY changed since I fell pregnant, advice?

Q.   Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. About 6 months ago we started talking about how we would like to have kids together. Well we were shooting around September just happend earlier, now i'm about 3 months pregnant and he has ...

A.   17 September 2006: Well congrats on the baby. Try and sit down cook a meal see how it goes if not try writing him a letter explain how you feel, maybe he doesnt know how to react to whats happenin. I'm sure once he gets use to it he will start to understand. If u have ... (read in full...)

He sent me hate mail and then asked why we can't be friends?! I told him and he got mad! What should I do?

Q.   Dear Cupid, Last year one of my friends asked me out and I said no! He didnt take it bad and later on we became best friends....we ended the school year in a fight! I thought everything was going downhill...this year i realised, he started hanging ...

A.   17 September 2006: I think you deserve an explanation for the way hes acting,if you wanna be firneds with him then say: Look i do wont to be friends with you but what was that hate mail about, and explain how you feel. Or You could just not talk to him let him come... (read in full...)

Some of her exes keep professing their love for her. I think she should cut the ties with these ex's. What do you all think?

Q.   My ex-fiance and I are trying to get back together to make it work. After being back with her for a couple of days i'm starting to withdraw from her again because of one important issue i am having problems with. Her and her ex's. From the moment t...

A.   17 September 2006: Well, i dont think its right that she tells u all the time, and if shes soo in love with you you normally wont to tell the whole world. But the issue wit her daughters father you cant really stop that because he still has to se his daughter. Try ... (read in full...)

I lied to my girlfriend, I need to gain her trust back! HELP!!

Q.   I need help i have lied to my girlfriend on 3 occasions and now she is upset and wants me to say something to reassure her that it wont happen again. I have broken her trust and she needs me to tell what i will do to win back that trust...

A.   17 September 2006: Well as the person said already it totally depends on what you have lied about. Getting trust back is the hardest thing to do, so i suggest do somethin outta the blue, write her poem about trust and love (if she likes that sorta thing). If not have ... (read in full...)

He says he wants nothing to do with our baby, but his mum does

Q.   im pregnant by my ex and were now not talking but his mum is causing me loads of hassle he said he wants nothing to do with baby but his mum does and wants a dna test. i also dont want any child support from him can i be forced to have a dna test ...

A.   17 September 2006: Im not quite sure weather it is or not. But i dont thinkg you can be forced. though i do think its nice that even though your ex doesnt wnat anything to do with it im sure his parents would like to see there grand child. You dont have to have the ... (read in full...)

We've been together for a month, she's pregnant, and I don't know if I'm the father... Help!

Q.   So i was dating my girlfriend for only one month, when she tells me that she is pregnant. The first thing i asked her was she one hundred percent that the baby was mine. She said yes, with out a doubt it was mine. The only thing i know to do is to ...

A.   15 September 2006: Aww im sorry to hear, but you took the right approach of being there for her. She should have mentioned earlier about the other person. All i can say if you really love her and want to make it work carry on, you might feel like you've been lied to ... (read in full...)

Im keeping myself busy, but still cant get over the hurt of my break up.. please help!!

Q.   I broke up with my ex 5 months ago. I am doing all the right things - keeping busy, seeing friends. But I still cry when I am alone, and I still miss him so very much. I really believe he was the love of my life and I don't know how I will ever get ...

A.   15 September 2006: Im sorry to hear how you feel but there is no time one day it will jus go. All i can say is keep doing what your doing, if you still find it hard write a letter to him writing down ya feelings then either keep it of burn it let out your hurt, or ... (read in full...)

My guy is in the Army, and I find it real hard being apart, I cant seem to live life for myself!!

Q.   Im dating a lovely guy who is in the army This is my first real relationship He is not the type to talk on the phone and does not have msn When we do talk on the phone everything jumbles and I never get my point accross We send messages by text but ...

A.   15 September 2006: I know what you mean all you can seem to do is think about them. If you text try n send it on tx what you want to say if you dont you will never be able to. Myabe after you have told him you might be able to live your life, find somethin your ... (read in full...)

Shes just started a new college course and has started to treat me badly!!

Q.   Me and my girlfriend are madly in love and have been for around 6 months now but we were friends for almost a year before that. Now we live together and she has just started a new college course, the only thing is that she has started to treat me ...

A.   15 September 2006: Its hard when this happens, maybe put the point across are her firends more important then you. I suggest you let her carrying on her course its her own independance and she might like the fact that she wont have to reli on you. I know it sounds ... (read in full...)

She ended it and is seeing someone new, but I know she still feels for me

Q.   Hi, 2 weeks ago my Girlfriend of 3 years split up with me. We had such a good relationship and she is the sort of person who is very loyal and does not lie. Well everyday she would tell me she loved me and would hug and kiss me and all was goin...

A.   15 September 2006: Matt i would be careful your feelings may hide the truth of what you see. I do syill think that your ex does love you, but when she sees you have you ever asked her if she still loves you why isnt she with you. Its not fair on you that she keeps ... (read in full...)

We split and now he has someone new and I want him back...

Q.   hi i am 16 and I split up with my bf a month ago, i went out wiv him for 4 months but now he has got someone new, he is happy with her but this leaves me still wanting him. Everytime i see him i want him back and i think how stupid i was to let it ...

A.   15 September 2006: Your are obviously going to miss him and it will hurt seein him happy with someone else and especally as you havent found someone yet makes a little bit more harder. But you will get throught and meet someone better, all you can do is put on a brave ... (read in full...)

Is he after one thing or does he really like me???

Q.   theres this guy and i like him. but on wednesday he kissed me but i think it went too fast, i dont want to hurt his feelings by turning him down if he asks me out. but im not sure if i want to say yes. please give me some advice, im new to the ...

A.   15 September 2006: The best thing to do is if he does ask you out and you dont feel u properly know him is to get to know him a bit more. You will soon find out if he really does, make sure he never rushes you or pressures you into anything. If he does this then he ... (read in full...)

I'm too embarrassed to ask her out...

Q.   Hi i am nearly 14 years old and i really like this girl in my school. the problem is she's 15. but i am to embarresed to ask her out! please help me...

A.   15 September 2006: Dont worry everyone gets embarresed even when your older. All i can say if you get a right feel from her that she likes you then go for it. If unsure flirt wit her see what happens or her reaction. ... (read in full...)

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