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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Lately I've had a thing with this girl, and we've been talking for a couple hours a day on the phone, we've had sex already, basically we're like friends with benefits.Anyways, I was away with work on the weekend, and I promised I'd call her on Monday, but when I got back I read one of her Facebook notes, and it in she was asked who the last person she kissed was, and who she likes at the moment, and I wasn't the answer in any of 'em, which was a bummer for me.So I figured she obviously wasn't interested so I just didn't bother calling.Anyways, yesterday she tried asking me what was wrong, so I just said nothing, I wasn't sure how to tell her how I feel without coming off as being a d___.I was supposed to call her last night too, but again, I didn't.I still like her, but it's upsetting knowing she's with other guys, I know she's going with at least 2 or 3 guys. (including me)She lies to me all the time too, about stupid stuff. Like I asked what she did this weekend, she said she stayed in sick, when she actually went driving with her friend (her friend who is a girl), I mean, what's the big deal that she has to lie about something like that?So what I'm wondering is, how should I tell her the reason behind me not calling? Should I at all?Thanks alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies, I'm thinking I'll move on, or try and stay friends, one of the two.
After thinking it through, I don't think I'd be able to go steady with a girl who's been so active with so many guys, I'd end up driving myself nuts. Besides, being single does have it's benefits.
And on a side note, Rush is an awesome band, and 2112 was a sick song, lol.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Tell her the truth, Tell her how you feel,
Do you want to have a commited relationship with her? Maybe she has commitment issues and feels scared or traped when someone trys to get to close which could be why she lies.
Hmmmmm its a tough one, but my suggestion is to call her, meet with her... not for sex but for coffee or something and chat with her and find out how she feels and tell her how you feel. If she only wants to be friends with benifits then maybe you need to move on? I thought the whole point of that was to not get emotionally attached and it very much sounds to me like you have become attached!
Good luck
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Wisodm
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