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male
age
36-40,
*hugMC86
writes:Why do females look at me as if I am very ugly? I am a twenty one year old guy who has never had a girlfriend because of how I look. Every time I look at a female with a pleasant face, she would look at me with an 'as if' attitude or give me a dirty look and go her way. Females do not pay attention to me at all, they always pay attention to the next dude. I have recently signed up for myspace where have to upload a photo of yourself for a profile, I have sent two messages to females who were signed on at that moment in my neighborhood, but I got no response. So my automatic reasoning is that the females seen my myspace photo and thought I was very ugly. All of my friends have girlfriends and females who check them out. My parents, their friends, my friends and co-workers say I am handsome, but I believe they are all saying that to be nice. This is makes me feel very angry with females I like and driving me insane.
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reader, 25sweetnsingle  +, writes (24 May 2009):
if any guy out there wants a women - just act like Mr Darcy and you will have women flocking to you !! Every women wants a darcy !!!1
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reader, anonymous73 +, writes (30 August 2008):
Why are you all giving this guy a hard time? He feels alone and ignored by others. I think any of you would feel upset too if you were alone not by your own choice. I can say that I feel your pain man. I know what this is like. Women always respond to what you say with attacks rather than understanding. I think this is mainly because women want to justify their shallow choices on looks without feeling personal guilt that they are jerks. If any of these women who are attacking you would be willing to go out with you and get to REALLY know you, then I wouldn't say they are jerks, but there are straight female jerks everywhere and they are shallow and they are mean. The responses you got in here are a perfect example of them. Zero understanding and blaming the victim of lonliness rather than the victimizers who are shallow.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 'This is makes me feel very angry with females I like and driving me insane.'
Oooh, I think I spotted your problem.
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reader, Yos +, writes (25 July 2008):
 It is almost certainly nothing to do with 'how you look'. Looks do matter to a woman, but they are much less important than other things.
Each person projects an aura... it is a combination of how they move, their body language, their expressions, what they wear, and even how they smell. This is what women will respond to, and your 'looks' are only a small part of this.
The single biggest factor for your aura is your confidence. If you are calm and confident then it makes you much more appealing. This can come down to the tiniest details of how you move, or how you make eye contact. It is very hard to 'fake', the best way to appear confident is to be confident. And the best way to become confident is to not 'need' anything, but rather just be relaxed and open to the world and to the people you meet.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (25 July 2008):
 ok well i myself or even one of my male friends we both thought how you did..were unnatractive no one will want to date me...but the thing is if you keep thinking that you will push people away..you sound like your shy too so am i but the thing is you have to put yourself out their, i am handsome im a confident person and i have a beautiful personallity.. i agree with baby duck to a degree.. dont think oh she thinks im ugly just think to yourself im a handsome guy because she might be thinking that too.. dont do a pleasant face just do whats come natural ie just a hello smile..One day i was in town and i smiled the whole time whether or not i wanted to an the amount of people that smiled back it was really nice or the amount thought wow i wonder why shes smilling so much ,it was really fun..well have you looked at the *next dude* and see what his body language is dont think of his looks think of what hes doing to attract people, is he smilling or is he flirting..if your on the defensive people can pick that up just relax be happy, flirt a little... hope that helps aphex xxx
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