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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Alright so, a few weeks ago, I starting hanging out with my friend a lot more before I went away to college. We hooked up. I really did not expect him to follow up or keep talking to me. Maybe its just my insecurities but I'm still surprised he likes me. Anyhow, its been two weeks and we still talk a lot via Facebook and texting. I personally hate communicating this way because I much rather interact in person but clearly that isn't possible. The thing is, we talk just as friends. Which I mean, is probably mostly my fault. I'm terribly scared of relationships/opening up and I'm not going to go down that road through texting. He has indirectly said how he misses me, but I feel like I've put him in the friend-zone and I don't want to do that. I really, really like him. I'm going home in less than two months. I am obviously going to see him and I don't know if we will hook up? I mean, I assume we will. I feel like what we have is not heading for the friends with benefits realm, because we didn't really do much of anything.. and well, I don't know, Ive never had conversations like I have had with him. I just don't know to go about seeing if this is just ephemeral or its something more? I have this feeling like its something more but I don't want to be unrealistic. We never talked about hooking up, we never got into that. I don't want to scare him. I don't know what to say. I just need to know. Because after spring break, I have about a month and half until I come home for the summer, and then what? Am I over analyzing this too much? I know most people can just hook up and be done with it, but I could never do that. I only hook up if I actually genuinely like the person more than just for shallow reasons.. I just have to figure out how to see what he wants out of this.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 hi
next time he sends you a message, don't reply by text or on facebook - call him instead! just tell him you feel like chatting for a change! or maybe don't wait for him to send you a message; if you are friends can't you just call him? i think that on the phone your conversation can develop more and go down different paths, texting and facebook can be a bit stunted can't it? so when you're chatting, ask him if he is free when you are back in town so you can do something fun together
goodluck xx
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