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male
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18-21,
anonymous
writes:Basically my girlfriend is making me uneasy all the time. First it started with her getting drunk and wrestling, biting, and rolling around with my friend on her bed (she said it was nothing).. Then she lies about where she is (acting innocent and bullshitting me with what she's up to, later finding out she was up to hanging out with random people she "meets").. One time lying to me about feeling sick and sleeping for 2 days (later to find she was at a nightclub and taking cough syrup).. She sometimes spends the nights at other houses, and won't tell me any details (or fills in with an 8 hour "blank").. She manipulates situations all the time, and can get pretty selfish. She hasn't done me wrong (that I know), so at this point, if I ever bring anything up, she will say I'm being insensitive. She has however, cheated with many of her exes and is very promiscuous (from her recent past) She says I'm the only one for her, and she would never do me wrong. Though the second she finds something else fun to do, it's like I don't exist. She has all these guy friends, and as long as they're showing attention, she doesn't need me. I just don't know if she is being honest, or if I can trust her. We've been together almost 10 months... Can someone shed some light? Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): She is cheating on you and has no respect for you.
Don't let on that you suspect anything, find someone else, in the meanwhile, then dump her.
Mark my words she is moving on from you and if you get any more emotionally attached to her, it will make the pain all that much more difficult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): I can shed some light on this, it's not that difficult! She is very immature with multiple problems and possibly addictions. Now, does that sound like someone you want to be with? Why are you selling yourself so short? Is it because she looks good or becuase you don't look good, or both? Either way, you are in for a serious rollercoaster ride (and I don't mean that in a good way).
You are old enough to have a girlfriend that is reliable, truthful, respectful and you need to go find her.
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (11 September 2009):
 What I want to know is..why are you with her and why are you putting up with her behavior? You've already caught her lying, and she can't even make excuses up for fill in the blanks..so of course you feel uneasy about her. I don't wish to be cruel, but certainly you can do better than this, can't you? People can do change of course and I think many of us have done things in the past that we aren't proud of, but its the fact that she's lying to you now that would make me feel she hasn't changed. And its sounds like she considers you "out of sight, out of mind"...I'd seriously consider what are you getting out of this relationship, because I don't think I'd trust a partner like her either.
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