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writes:I've single mother, she is always out if not she is divided from me towards my siblings and my stepdad.For decades now it's just me and her.I feel so guilty that I cannot find any comfort from her, and often I feel so ungrateful because she's the least I want to ask for an advice. So in the end I'm all alone in my thoughts because I don't have a particular friend to confide to.I barely hug her, and I just feel so uncomfortable telling her I love her.You might tell me it's just a phase, I'm 25 years old, and I watched "Mother" I can relate so much.When I told her about my dreams she often told me to get my head out of the clouds and often tell me to get a real job.So sick and tired of her whining about her work and how hard life is.I'm depressed as it is and it's the last things I want to hear is money problems.I feel so guilty for not loving her, is it wrong? am I right, how can I stop feeling this guilt sick to my stomach?Please don't scold at me just give me an advice how to mend our broken relationship.I love her dearly when I was younger but entering teenager years I just don't.
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reader, heather016  +, writes (3 June 2011):
I understand what you mean by, ".. her whining about work and how hard life is.." I think I have lived my life listening to her talking about money problems and her work. I know how depressing it could get. It makes you feel so disturbed.
And talking about stepdads, I am often puzzled how she could just love me less for her new lover. I was the center of attention. I was her dearest. Her only closest. How could she scold me and throws mean words at me just for her new lover.
I am in no right position to advice you but I believe some mothers will actually give in to "lunches" or invitations to your child's birthday party.
As for me, I am still angry about how she could slowly drive me away just for someone new in her life whom she barely knew.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Are you just entering your teen years as you say in your last sentence or coming out of them as your stated age would indicate?
Your age would impact how I would answer your question.
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reader, ClearSorted  +, writes (3 June 2011):
Hey its fine. Nobody likes whining. is there any particular reason why you see this distance, i mean any event or something. I can tell you one thing dont expect from people, they do their own things. Dont ask for love, start giving love. Get yourself along with people around. Firstly remove the guilt, it takes toll on your self-esteem. I am unclear as to what you do jobwise. But start being good, feeling good. I am sure things will be good. dont compare, because you are worth all love. you will discover it. all the best. you may contact me.
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