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writes:I dont know whats wrong with meIve been with my bf for 10 months now.Ive always had a crush on one of my old guy friends from college, and he me. The result of this in kinda disastorous, as it now means that everytime i see him or talk to him on msn or something, i end up becoming really distant with my bf,and not really wanting to see him (which is a big problem in our relationship already). I already think that in the long term i dont love my bf or at least not to the extent he does me, this reason alone makes me think i am using him. I would even really say im attracted to him, just that he is there for me when i need comforting or to make me laugh etc.Now im not saying i should dump my bf for this other guy, but should i stay in a relationship which after 10 months i still dont know how i feel, and feel obligated to say i love you when he says it to me (because its horrible to say i love you and not hear it bk)Please help me sort this out because my mind is all screwed up and i feel like a terrible person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): Forgetting the fact you have feelings for another person... You are unhappy in your relationship. Why stay in a relationship when you are not happy? It is unfair to you and your boyfriend.
The fact you say you arn't even really attracted to him tells it all.
I think you know what to do.
Don't cloud your mind with guilt. If it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be.
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reader, kelleeashton  +, writes (9 March 2009):
 this is def. a problem. i think that you should talk to your current bf. tell him you can't handle anything terribly serious but you do care deeply for him its just that love is a strong word and i don't think you are using him because using him means you don't care and you wrote this question and if it didn't matter you wouldn't be thinking about it so much. tell him you care but don't love him even if he loves you. and you have just gotten used to him. thats why hes not as attractive to you anymore. best of luck! - kell
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reader, Mikestence +, writes (9 March 2009):
Well whatever you do you should tell him the truth and talk to him about how you feel no matter how it makes him feel cause I know I would want someone to tell me the truth instead of lie to me hope this helps.
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