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Skeez
writes:I am diagnosed with Dysthymia (depression) and my relationship is going well down hill.My partner of over 10 months makes me feel as though I am just another person in the crowd. He doesnt make me feel special anymore and his distance has extended since he got a full time job. Now adays I feel rejected from his love. I have suspicion that he is cheating on me. I have no proof of this, but my gut feeling tells me he is. I am lucky to see him at least twice a week now, it used to be every other day but these days consist of only about 3 hours together. He tells me at the beginning of the week what his work times are for the whole week coming. He tells me he has days off on so and so day, so when he comes over, he then tells mehe has to go back to work again later that evening. Its hurting me so much, I dont even think he realises that I am now harming myself. I have had depression most of my life and now adays it has gotten worse. I starve myself and cut myself a lot. I may be over reacting becuase I am very sensetive.I feel our relationship is dieing.I need help and advice to sought this problem outand for some advice to get ourselves back on our feet.I feel like im the only one that's trying in this relationship, he knows I have harmed myself before because of smiliar cases, but he never mentions it, as though he doesnt care.Please please help me Reply to this Question |
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Get thee to a counselor or psychiatrist.
There isn't really anything anyone can say here to help you if you're cutting yourself and you're acting out like an anorexic. You are not just "sensitive" as you said. You have a problem which can only be sorted out by a professional.
If you don't feel you can talk to your parents about starting to go to a counselor, then go to your school counselor and tell them how you feel and what you're doing.
You're also old enough to start learning about depression and why people cut themselves. Go to a bookstore, buy and start reading books to inform yourself about anorexia, depression and self-mutilation.
Make it your first priority to get into regular, weekly counseling, and you will have a much easier life.
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 ok this might be hard to hear but the odds are that you are being paranoid, you need to tell him how you feel, but also be aware that it is probably all in your mind. you feel depressed and so you feel bad about yourself and take everything personally. your boyfriend has to work and just because he has to spend time doing that doesn't change his feelings for you. as for the cutting and starving and depression, your boyfriend can't be responsible for that. you are responsible. either for getting yourself some help or not. your boyfriend is not your therapist and the relationship is not all about you. it is both of you. i know because i've had the same problems. so take it from me- you need to sort yourself out first! i hope you get the help you need.
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