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I feel like I am a loser, what am I going to do now I am going to Highschool?

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Question - (28 June 2010) 9 Answers - (Newest, 29 June 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, *annah95 writes:

i am a 15 year old girl and you could say that i am not really that fun to be around, i like barely have friends no one ever wants to spend the night with me i am lucky if a guy even looks at me and also the worst thing is i am going into highschool and if i cant even make it in middle school nor elementary how am i supposed to make it in highschool. My brother just is no longer in highschool this year was his last and he was like the jock he was popular , he had all the girls pretty muck everybody wanted to be like him and now here comes his little sis the lozer i dont know what i am going to do!! please help:)

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A female reader, OGNuniiex3 United States +, writes (29 June 2010):

OGNuniiex3 agony auntjust be outgoing , funny and stuff , & get new look so everyone couldd be like " wow " , when you meet some one new start a conversation with them , dont be boring . Put yourself out there and stuff .

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A female reader, hannah95 United States +, writes (29 June 2010):

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thanks:)u guys for all the advice hopefully it will help!!!

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A female reader, alley:) Ireland +, writes (28 June 2010):

hi :) u seem like a very nice girl. The fact that you want to fit in and follow after your brothers foot steps is admirable. When you go to your new school, there will be a lot of new people to meet and become friends with that havent met you before. So why dont you be the new you going to highschool instead of the you now with not alot of friends. Before you start highschool....go to a hairdressers...get the latest style, go to a salon, get your eyebrows waxed, a lesson in applying make up...the works!!Maybe evn get some new clothes like the ones all the "cool kids" do be wearing. go into your new school feeling confident will be the best way to make people want to like you, be chatty and nice....MAKE A NEW YOU and there should be no reason why people wouldnt want to be friends with you, people will only have a reason if you give them one.

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A female reader, kitty-cat=] United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

kitty-cat=] agony auntyou don't have to worry :)

thats exactly how my life has always been. in intermediate and middle school i was pretty much alone all the time. i knew that if people talked to me i would be nice and a good friend but no one did. and my sister was a cheerleader. i hated school. but heres a secret they didn't tell you about high school... IT'S FUN! i really used to hate school and barely got by with c's and d's. but in high school your around older people not just people in your grade who will like that your so nice :) it was so weird. think of the popular people in your grade, you feel like you can't talk to them right? its like their popularity just vanishes! and everyone can be friends with anyone! it was so weird. i didn't believe it at first, but kids that i felt were to good for me i was hanging out and joking with! you seem very nice, im sure people will love you. the only downside? YOU ONLY GET FOUR YEARS lol im a sophomore now and i love school. you have nothing to worry about. hope this helps :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010):

Dw bout things like this too much. Get involved in as many hobbies and interests of yours as you can. This is pretty much the best way to branch out/gain confidence/gain friends/discover the best you in my opinion. Dont focus too much on what kinda person you are and about changing for others to be 'less of a loser' or whatever. Trust me on all this, in a lot of cases the coolest, best people with the most friends later in life- are always the types who were like you at age 13-15 i.e. not out there, not in-your-face, not bitchy etc.

:)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010):

High school really ain't bad. I'm going on my 3rd year this year. The only is you get more freedom. But you might get tempted with drugs since you'll be "fresh meat" to some bad influences. Good luck(:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010):

Heey look when I read this I remembered how I was two years ago.I'm 14 and I am now ome of the most popular girls of elementary school. You need to talk more to people even if theyy are two or one so then you can talk to their friends you get to know your friends of friends then you can meet their and that's how it continues till everyone gets to know you well in first steps try to take someone that you like her style as a guurl and be like her as a personalityy. Good luck.

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A female reader, Sincerely Yours United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

Sincerely Yours agony auntPS.. Watch out for those other people who appear to be lonely a lot. I'm sure they'd like to make a friend, too :)

~SY

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A female reader, Sincerely Yours United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

Sincerely Yours agony auntAw, that's a sweet smiley you added at the end. You seem like a very nice girl. Sometimes nice people fall behind for a while, because they get taken advantage of, but eventually, they find the right balance of strength and submissiveness,

And you will do the same. You have four years of high school to figure out what your true personality is, what your good qualities are, along with your bad, and what kind of people you enjoy being around, who also enjoy you.

I gaurantee if you just remain sweet and mild-tempered, some very special relationships are in storage for you to go and get.

Just don't get swallowed in the gossip vines, talking behind peoples' backs, or make fun of anyone. Don't let anyone take advantage of you (emotionally or sexually), don't make friends in the wrong crowd just because you're lonely. Don't let your grades dive, because High School really is important.

You'll figure out who you are and what defines you, you'll meet people in your classes, and chances are, there are plenty more lonely girls in middle school, just like you; waiting for their chance to shine as well. Just give it time. You have a long life ahead of you.

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