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writes:hi, im 15 and i have no confidence at all, i have never had a proper boyfriend and never kissed a boy either, every one i know has and i feel really left out. what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Don't worry - I'm 15 too and I've never had a boyfriend or shared my first kiss or anything!
I don't mind so much though - I'll just wait until someone really special comes along and go from there.
If there's someone you like - why don't you make up your mind to ask HIM out!! See what happens then! x x x
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (8 March 2008):
 People lie huni people say all sorts of things to make themseleves feel better its probably likely your friends are lying, hun dont worry at your age you shouldnt worry about guys (nothing but trouble and stress and a lot of compliactions) just enjoy being young and having no responsibility or pressure from guys, it will happen for you i promise that one day you will find that perfect guy but for now dont worry about it just enjoy being you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): The things we often wish for happen when we least expect them to...
Learn to be completely happy with who you are as a person and accept that there are no set rules in life about when we should have our first kiss, our first love etc - although it probably seems to you that society has expectations of these kind of things...this is far from the truth.
Aim to become more confident and secure (by doing the above) - seemingly without a care in the world, at least not about tiny insignificant things (that to be honest, are not always as joyful as they are made out to be...) and people will respect you for this and it will also make you so appear much more approachable and like girlfriend material.
All in all, you will be happier and therefore have more confidence which will bring you closer to finding the right guy to share your first kiss with...don't make it out to be an urgent task and it will be that more enjoyable as an sign of romance!
All the best - hope I made some sort of sense... x x x
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reader, topper  +, writes (8 March 2008):
Hey girl. Unless you are a total bow wow then get out there and hustle. Advertize if you have to.Meet someone and give it your all . I was nervous about meeting someone when i was younger,but I knew I had to see it out if I ever wanted to be with someone Dont brood take action ,even if its not the person you really want to be with right away your getting practice and building confidence to overcome. Good luck
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reader, rebecca.megan +, writes (8 March 2008):
 You've got to know that you are not alone when it comes to situations like these. There are a millon of people out there in the same position as you, including me. I know exactly how it feels to have no self confidence around boys. But at the day we've got to realise that they are just people like you and me and we shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable around them. You're still young and will have a thousand oppurtunaties in later life. Don't worry yourself thinking that you have to have a boyfriend just to fit in, because you need to live your life aswell. If there ever is that special boy out there that you don't want to lose, then get to know him in anotherway first, instead of face to face[e.g.msn]its a much easier way and may help you to become more confident towards them. And as for not kissing a lad yet, don't worry yourself over it, there's much more to life than just boys, so when you do find that perfect boy, then it'll be a much more special moment for you.anyways, sorry if i've babbled on a bit here.but i hope it helps.xx
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reader, enno  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 Ive never had a Girlfriend and honestly say that I feel for you when you see your frinds with partners...and im 17!
But one thing you can do is find out why you dont have a boyfriend or never kissed a boy? are you shy, scared? do you feel something is holding you back? do you feel your not attractive enough or overweight(im not trying to insult you but I ask these because your question is very vague)and then try and overcome it...if you tell us maybe we can help you overcome it!
if you wanna talk just PM me :)
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