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writes:I'm 24 and my cousins are all getting married and have kids. My co workers are always asking me if I've met anyone yet. I have taken a break from dating as I feel disillusioned. I got out of a really bad relationship last year. I have dated a couple of people since then, but nothing has worked out. I feel really jealous of others who seem to find love so easily.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 December 2011):
 Maybe in Australia. In Europe the average age of first pregnancy is 28 or 29- and over 30 for the more industrialized countries. I don't know if this is the ideal age or not, but I assure you we all cope quite well with this "late " pregnancies, ( a woman in her 30s is not yet exactly crippled by rheumatisms and can still romp with her kids ) and yes, divorce rate and all, there still are tons of happy ,more mature marriages with happy , healthy children.
The media. Pfui. Your coworkers . Do they detain the key for universal wisdom.
Look for what will make YOU happy, not what will make your coworkers happy.
After all, it should be about finding real love, not about " settling down " for the sake of walking in pairs like into Noah's ark.
And,btw,allow me a hint. Sure, young men your age are not too keen of making committments and settling down. But they will be even less so if they suspect you are interested in them not because of who they are but because of what they can give you, i.e. : social status,kids and stability. That will make them run even faster !
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEveryone says to have kids young, especially the media and my co workers. But the problem is guys never want to settle down young at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): You're only 24. Relax. You have plenty of time to find a nice man to settle down with. Most guys your age aren't looking to settle down. Perhaps start dating man who are in their late 20s or early 30s.
I am in the same boat as you but I am in my late 20's. Don't rush into marriage. It's better to wait for the right person than to waste your entire life suffering with the wrong person.
Single life can be fun too. You can just do you for a while until someone comes along that works hard enough for you to give them a chance to be with you. Otherwise send them away and keep doing you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't feel that optimistic. I mean most guys my age like to jump from relationship to relationship. They are immature. Alot of people like having a different girlfriend every 6 months.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 Get in line with the rest of us losers who feel the same way.....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): Its understandable but really, you have plenty of time. Your did right to have a break from dating, now your probably ready to date again.
Maybe you will find mr right next month, maybe not, just relax,wish your friends well and enjoy your life without wondering why others find love, your turn will come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): just keep looking...you will find the man/woman of your dreams :) im sure of it because there is someone other there for everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): I hear you. But you're only 24 and you admit you have been dating, it just hasn't worked out. Come back when you're 37 and have only had two dates in two years!
It's life, I'm afraid. For some of us, it stinks. But that's what it is. You just have to hope that when the right person finally comes along it was worth the wait. Sometimes it is.
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